Help !! I'm christian, my bf is not?

Question

Hello,
I am of the christian faith, my gf is not ..Although she has a spiritually that practices good principles, and she is a very good person ..I am very in love with her ... and she loves me very much too ..I would like to accept her spirituality and take her as she is ...but , I am really disturbed sometimes, but this "do not be unequally yoked"" of the bible, which seems to reason in my head each time, I am with her ...She is a really good person, kind, filled with good sense, pacific, altruistic and so on ...all the good things , but she is not a christian herslef, she is practicing a more open kind of spirituality, although, our relationships is difficult m because of this verse ..I have told her my situation and her too, she is decided not to become a christian, I still love her, she still love me depply ..and she told that if the price for interdiction is love, there should no problem with it ... I'm already in love with her and we are engaged.what should I do ?..I love her !

Answer 1

What? Do you have a boyfriend or a girlfriend? And are you a guy or a girl? I am totally confused by your question.

"I'm christian, my bf is not"....
So, you are a girl named bobby and your boyfriend isn't a christian? Or, you are a guy named bobby with a boyfriend?

"I am of the christian faith, my gf is not"
Ok, so you are a girl named bobby and your lesbian girlfriend is not? Or, you are a guy named bobby and your heterosexual girlfriend is not a christian?

Confusing. Freudian slip? Maybe you are confused on your sexuality?

Answer 2

Ignore that silly "unequally yoked" drivel. That's an outdated prejudice. There's absolutely no reason why two persons of different faiths or lifestances cannot get along, fall in love, marry, rear children (if they choose), and grow old together. All that is required is that they both be thinking adults who respect one another, do not insist that the other think as they do, and are willing to compromise from time to time. Just like any other couple.

People of different faiths and backgrounds make their relationships work every day. It happens every day.

Sounds like you have a good thing going. Don't let prejudice spoil it. You have a right to be you and she has a right to find her own way, too. Support her freedom to seek her own path to fulfillment and ask that she do the same for you.

And if someday you have children--that's when the compromising comes in. Be prepared to compromise. It can be done. Scores of mixed couples have managed their way through this difficulty. It's not insuperable.

Answer 3

B,
I just got out of this situation myself. I wish I never broke up with her though. Although the bible teaches about being "unequally yoked". Paul writes ( I think in Ephesians) about not splitting a couple because of faith. It explains that your faith will carry her into the kingdom of heaven. Unfortunately I read this after it was too late.

Take my advice and explain to her your faith and how important it is to you. Then explain that your love for her will always be there, but your faith is the most important thing. As long as she can make that compromise to never come between you and your faith you should be okay. The next step is to continue to pray for her and her salvation. God may be using you to get to her, and how the heavens will rejoice when she comes to that saving knowledge!!!

Good Luck and God Bless!!

-Oliver

Answer 4

If they follow the same kind of beliefs, are good, kind, moral, & you love them, what is the problem?
I can understand if they were athiest or really obnoxious about your religion, but if they show the same caring & spiritual behavior, then accept for what they are, not whet you think they should be.
I consider myself more spiritual than religious, but I still follow the tennants of the bible, believe in a higher power & am a good person. We are not bad people, just believe a little differently than you do. But, that doesn't mean we are wrong either!

Answer 5

The Bible is very clear on this point.

2 Corinthians 6:14 says: " Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what what communion has Christ with Belial."

Don't make the second most important decision of your life choosing sin.

First of all, you need to show her this verse. Then give her a deadline of thirty days of reading the Bible and going to church with you. If she doesn't give herself to Jesus, break it off.

Ephesians 5:1 "Be imitators of God as dear children."

As Christians, we are commanded to imitate Jesus. Jesus did the will of the Father.

I hope God has given you your answer through me today. I will pray for you.

Answer 6

You should try to distance yourself from her and understaand that no matter how hard it may be God is in control and everthing will work out great. He probably has someone else out there for you.

Even though Paul said not split up because of faith he was refering to already married people where one gets saved after they are married and the other does not. You should ever marry someone thats not a Christian if you are.

Answer 7

To love is to love unconditionally, accept her as she is, love her for who she is, tolerance and acceptance is important. Far too many people do not like some Christians because some are preachy, hateful and judgmental- that is far from being Christ-like.

You are already engaged so the choice to commit is there, move past the differences, embrace them, don't challenge them. I am a reverend by the way.

Answer 8

I have to ask you something: how can you be married to a girl who doesn't love Jesus Christ? I can't imagine being with anyone that doesn't have this very important foundation. What on earth do you have in common, really? The word of God tells us things for a very important reason: He wants to protect us. I would strongly, strongly advise you, do NOT marry someone who has pronounced they have no desire to ever accept Jesus Christ.

God never says anything idly. I know many women who are heartsick over the disparity between their husbands and themselves, because they are married to an unbeliever. It will affect everything, every part of marriage and your future children's upbringing. Please reconsider.

Answer 9

Read 1 Corinthians 7:10-16.

The Bible teaches that if a non-believer leaves a believing spouse, the believing spouse does not sin by allowing the divorce. But if a believer is married to an unbelieving spouse who is willing to stay, then the believer should not seek a divorce: "You wives must remember that your husbands might be converted because of you. And you husbands must remember that your wives might be converted because of you."

Answer 10

You love her and you say she is a good person who loves you then go with your heart. She is spiritual just not exactly the same way you are. Is it really important that she believe exactly the same things you do? Celebrate your differences and accept her as she is.