Why are some people more shy than others?

Question

Is it self-esteem problems from child hood and their peers or is it just the way they are?

Answer 1

Shyness may be defined experientially as discomfort and/or inhibition in interpersonal situations that interferes with pursuing one's interpersonal or professional goals. It is a form of excessive self-focus, a preoccupation with one's thoughts, feelings and physical reactions. It may vary from mild social awkwardness to totally inhibiting social phobia.

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Answer 2

It is a part of personality, which is developed in response to various elements in your environment. The extent to which you are shy or outspoken will be determined primarily by what you learn to expect as a response, from speaking in given manners. In the most extreme examples, a person who, as a child, is given everything they want, treated like the world revolves around them, and rewarded for being obnoxious will most likely grow up to be quite outspoken, while a child who is put in a burlap sack and beaten with an oar every time they speak will probably grow up to be much shyer. So to answer your question, (self-esteem problems, peers, or just the way they are?) yes, yes, and yes.

Answer 3

Im a quiet person and its just the way I am. Whats funny is people think they know me but the thing is I can be completely different. I tend to be really focused at school and sometimes nervous. Ive become less shy as ive become older though. Actually some loud people have less self-esteem and talk a lot because they are nervous. Its just different personalities

Answer 4

That is a very good question...I think it has something to do with self-esteem and mentality or something you were born with...
I was always extremely shy when I was growing up....I couldn't get up and give a speech or book report in school...My
throat would tighten up and my voice would come out shaky or squeaky...My peers thought I was stuck up, when in reality, I was scared to death...I kept to myself most of the time...I have no idea why I was like that.....Even today, I prefer to being a loner...I always envied people that were out going and had a bubbly personality...I had a great childhood and had no reason for feeling the way I did...Guess it is something you are born with or something from your last life....

Answer 5

It is their disposition. Just like some people are funny, some are serious, some are confrontational, others are not.
Some people like being shy. They don't like talking to a lot of people.
If it is a quality you possess and don't like, you can do simple things to change it. Start by asking people in the grocery store lines or bus line or something stupid questions like, "Wow! I see you have 15 gallons of milk. That's unusual. Why so much milk?" Or, compliment them: "Oh, what a cute bag! Where'd you get it?" For guys, I suggest a comment such as, "Hey, is that *PRODUCT NAME* any good? I've heard about it, but never tried it." Things like that. Just stupid things. Then, the more comfortable you get with little things, the less shy you will be. It will always be hard for you to talk to strangers, but it makes it easier. Also, getting involved in social organizations that emphasize talking, like sororities and fraternities, help.

It may be linked a little to self esteem, but it is overcomeable. The best thing to remember is being shy isn't bad.

Answer 6

I dunno, A+ question!

I range from painfully shy to motor-mouth outgoing. For me as an individual, my intuition is extrememly good at knowing when to be shy; I tried overcoming my shyness, and the people I'm normally shy around, well, trying to overcome my shyness around them backfired. I will lose my shyness, however, if a person cross a line too much with me and if it's truly worth getting into a verbal confrontation with them ( a lot of the time it's not).
I find it easier to go on stage to do karaoke, dance, or play guitar in front of a huge crowd than to make a one-on-one conversation. Sometimes it's hard for me to say Hi and Thank You.
I've had some level of shyness since childhood. As a child and teen, I think it had to do with being the most unpopular girl in school due to my peers finding me terribly ugly. As an adult, I think it's more of an intuition thing; just knowing a lot of people don't like me and whenever I try to make small talk or offer to do something friendly for them, they have their way of letting me they don't want to be bothered with without coming out and saying it necessarily.
It depends on who you talk to, there's all sorts of reasons for shyness, even insecurities about how they feel about their physical appearances. But for those who are shy, don't take my cue; go ahead an overcome your shyness. Most shy people I come to know are nice people. I recommend overcoming shyness as sometimes a truly shy but sweet person gets accused of being stuck-up and there's a HUGE difference between the two! Don't make the same mistake as me, as I gave up trying to overcome my shyness. I'll now try to overcome it again.

Sorry if I made this too long. Any shy folks need to talk, email me!

Answer 7

Some people do not have the same socialization skills. To some what appears easy like striking up a conversation, may be a challenge to a timid individual.

There are also chemical issues involved, as in anxiety disorders. Through medication it often alleviates the problems and levels the playing field. Each situtation is individual.

Answer 8

No two people are alike. We are all unique unto ourselves and to expect the same behavior from us all is unrealistic. For some adults it could be a case of low self-esteem, the way they were raised or they are just shy because that's how their minds were wired from the moment of conception. There are people who "grow out of it" once they build up their confidence.

Answer 9

I think it has to do with self esteem, yes.

A lot of people worry about what others will say. I for one, when I talk, I NEVER look peope in the eyes.. Why? Who knows.

I think now days, people worry a lot about what others will think of them.. Some peole are so judgmental, and the people are scared that they will talk behind their backs.

hopefully one day no one will be shy, and will be happier.

Now as for kids.. Kids just are I guess. I'm not sure with why kids are.. that is a good question..

Answer 10

It depends. I was pretty outgoing as a child but I also played on my own.

When I hit teens, it was rough; I had no luck with girls - could barely manage to ask even one of them to dance at dances or to skate at skates then briefly at senior high - a new school where I knew nobody - when I asked anyone, they said yes. (a mystery to me).

Now, I am still shy - no girlfriend - I am not as shy as I used to be but I've yet to find a woman willing to give me a chance...

Now the why: part of it is self-esteem - my family could be rough on me at times though sometimes I deserved it. Some of the girls/women I've been interested in apparently haven't been open-minded about who they'll date
(the guy has to be from their culture etc.).

Answer 11

It depend what that person's personality it. I mean some people are quiet and shy while other are loud... also how they are raised. But sometime when i person doesn't get enough attention they are know to be be louder and if a person' self esteem is low then they tend to be shy. I myslef am shy... but when i get to konw you i am not so shy, but i bellieve i can d anythign i an capable of when i put my mind to it.... my self esteem is great.