I have a problem with a family member how should I confront them?

Question

I have this family member who has been very disrespectful,verbally abusive, arrogant, and "non-listening". They believe that their always right and anything anyone else says is wrong. Because I stepped back and kept silent for awhile now this person "feels hurt" and doesn't know what's wrong with me. I feel like this is the time for me to confront them...any advice on what I should say?
Please help!

Answer 1

yes u should

Answer 2

It sounds like a good time to tell him or her that you have stepped back because some of his/her actions have been "disrespectful and verbally abusive" and that is the way you will have to continue to handle interactions with him/her unless the behaviour changes for the better. I think you have done the right thing so far. You cannot make him or her change. You now have the opportunity to explain and see if he or she cares to do so. If not, staying a step back from that person in the future is the best way to deal with it, imho.
Good luck! Stay strong!

Answer 3

Most people like that never see their own faults and think the rest of the world is flawed. If this person feels hurt, as you say, and doesn't know what's wrong with you -- by all means take this as an opportunity to address the issues with him or her. You may not get anywhere, but at least you'll get it off your chest. What to say? Just blurt it all out. You'll feel a lot better. And who knows -- something just might get through the thickness of that person's skull, but don't bank on it. Good luck!

Answer 4

Don't be afraid to confront family. It may be hard but in the end you'll feel alot better. Just don't make them feel like your boxing them into a corner,slowly move into confronting then. Start with a subtle conversation and work it from there.

Answer 5

Be as kind and as honest as possible. Be non-accusatory, when you state your issues, say how these things have made you feel, like "When you are disrespectful, verbally abusive, etc, it makes me feel ______". Try to talk about the offense, not so much the offender. And if it doesn't help, well nothing's any different is it? Good luck!

Answer 6

good luck I think every family has one of those,
one of my in-laws is that way. The best thing to do is
let them have their way , they are not going to change for you or anyone else unless they want to & if you say anything about the way they act the will just deny it.
Or else tell them , but be prepared for an argument.
sorry I could not help more. GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

Write them a letter saying exactly how you feel,that way you can say it all,not be interupted and get everything out.When they contact you you'll know right away if you can work this out.Good Luck.You can pick your nose but not your family!

Answer 8

Simply tell your family member just what you said. Explain that this isn't up for a debate simply answering their question about why you seem stand offish. If you must elaborate, make it clear that this is simply how YOU see things. Then, DROP IT!!

Answer 9

Tell them when they start spouting off at the mouth and act like a fool, you tune them out. They got a problem with that?

Answer 10

Honesty is always the best policy. This person didn't have any problem being discourteous to you and I would react in kind.

Answer 11

There's your chance !
Tell her she's her own reason for feeling hurt !
If she can't handle it, you'll be a better person for it !