anyone else out feel worthless?

Question

I'm ugly..i'm short, fat, stupid, were glasses..no friends, no girlfriend my self-esteem is as about as small as a grane of sand, I was bullied alot as a child,do not have the courrage to go into a bar, pub any where to met other people on my own. I feel that the hole world is against me,everyone is laughing at me.why can't people be nice and take people for who they are? and not resuting to puting people down and make them feel worthless, just because they don't look"NORMAL" enough to them?

Answer 1

well I'm short,over weight and wear glasses but i have just met a guy on a site called loopy love and we are very happy not everyone looks at just whats on the outside but whats on the inside .. and that's whats more important..i know people will tell you to lose weight and you can only do this when you are ready to you have to get it right in your head before it will work..as for your self esteem you can work on that as you start talking to more ppl if you would like to talk to me i would be happy to as long as your not a kid:)

Answer 2

Have you ever heard of social phobia, or social anxiety? What you're describing sounds remarkably similar to it. From personal experience, I know it to be pretty devastating.

I also don't have the courage to go into a bar or a club, my social life is non-existent and I empathise on being bullied as a child given that it's a more common experience than many people realise. All I can say is that there is treatment out there, accessible via referral from your GP, which can if not exactly cure the problem at least put it into some form of perspective. Two years ago, I quite literally couldn't leave the house. Now, I am better than I used to be. I'm not saying I don't still have problems, because I do - I stayed in bed all day yesterday for example, only getting up at 7:30pm because I just couldn't face what the rest of the world was going to throw at me. So, I empathise with your experience. It can be debilitating.

Talk to your GP, and if you feel able to face it, ask for a referral to a counsellor or a psychotherapist to work on your self-esteem and your feelings. There's a whole body of medical research out there which can help diagnose, treat and improve your situation if you chose to access it. But, you have to take the first step of admitting it's a problem and going and getting some appropriate help. Whilst some people on here are likely to be sympathetic, not everyone will and I suspect your GP would be a better place to be putting the question.

There are ways of working on self-esteem, so why not look into it and find a solution that works for you?

Answer 3

I only feel like that when I'm awake. I know where you are coming from. I probably have many years on you and have been alone most of my life. It sucks but I take every day one day at a time. Some day something has to go right for me. All I can have is hope since I have nothing else. hang in there you don't know what tomorrow will bring may be good may be the same old ****.

Answer 4

Hey, you probably shouldn't post on here that kind of thing because you're gonna run into people who just want to make mean jokes at your expense. I want to use stronger words, but on a campaign to become a lady.

The first thing is you have to let the past go. We all had sucky crap happen to us as children. Just learn from it and go on. You shouldn't say crap like, "I'm fat, stupid, or ugly or short". If you don't believe in yourself, no one else is going to. It's kinda corny and lame sounding, but I read this article about how you should be your own cheerleader. There are good things about you. You either aren't acknowledging them enough or just can't see them.

Leave the negative words out. "Life and death are in the power of the tongue", "as a man thinks in his heart so he is". Very powerful words and very true.

Your answer doesn't come from outside, it comes from inside.

Answer 5

Basically people are selfish,arrogant and in many cases self conscious themselves.By deflecting criticism onto someone they feel superior to ,it helps them feel better about their own insecurities.
A lot of people put a lot of emphasis on physical appearance;however it is worth considering that if this is the case and they find someone attractive and settle down with them;what happens if that person changes through putting on weight,illness or injury,are those same people going to be so shallow as to leave that person !
Firstly you need to be happy with yourself,certainly you can loose weight etc but its whats on the inside you need to be happy with.
Try an on-line introduction or dating site ,like Yahoo Personals or uDate,these allow you to chat to and get to know someone properly before looking at physical appearance.
If someone judges you on looks alone then you don't want to be with them anyway.
However one thing I know is;and it will take you some time,so work on it,one thing im told women find very attractive in a man is confidence,so get working on your self esteem and get out there.
Good luck !

Answer 6

i know that im beatiful i get told all the time but im short and nearly every day i examine myself in the mirror and go over ever little imperfection that i find that amzingly only i see. Keep ur head up and try and find something good what i find works is every time i find something wrong with me i replace it with a positive self comment. And abnout feeling small my size always leaves me feeling somewhat inadeqete near others but once again look at kylie minogue shes pint size but beautiful

Answer 7

You may think you are all those negative things, but I bet the rest of the world doesn't! If you are really large try looking on dating sites especially for people like you.....there's one called DatingBBW or something similar. I've met some lovely people there, but also some weirdos so be cautious.

Answer 8

You need to build up your self-esteem and go out there and enjoy life. Go get some professional help and STOP PITYING YOURSELF!!! People know a weakling when they see one. If you dont like being fat..go workout. If you dont like wearing glasses go get laser surgery or get a more stylish pair. You got to make the effort man...no girl or anybody will want to be around you with that f**ked up attitude!! You just made me depressed reading this question...Geez!!!!

Answer 9

Heres what you do.

Go to the gym, get in shape, at least pretend to have self confidence. Get a new hair cut, try some new styles. Hell, hire someone to give you a makeover. Figure out what you like to do, and want to do, and go do it. Have pride in your work, and if anyone ever tells you you're a loser, you tell them, "at least i'm f-ing happy".

Answer 10

no matter how you feel just know that not every body laughs at you.i use to feel the same way but i learn to love my self and that's what you should do first. God loves you the way you are. look around the world there are people who can not see nor have eyes nor can Seka so, thank god for your life and learn to love your self.