Why do peple think that adopted children or orphans will all be miserable?

Question

WHY IS IT SUCH A HORRIBLE IDEA TO THING THAT MAYBE SOMEONE WHO IS ADOPTED OR LIVING IN A DOSTER HAME HAS TO BE MISERABLE.

EVERY ABORTION QUESTIONTHAT SPRINGS UP,TO PUT DOWN THE IDEA OF ADOPTION SOMEONE ALWAYS SAYS WELL I DON'T WANT TO BRING THAM INTO THE WORLD UNWANTED.

DID YOU EVER THINK THAT MAYBE THEY DON'T EVER THINK OF IT THAT WAY. THERE ARE PLENTY OF PEOPLE THAT GROW UP SUCESSFUL FROM THAT SITUATION. DO YOU EVERY THINK THAT MAYBE PEOPLE WILL BE GRATEFUL FOR THEIR LIFE.

Answer 1

i would like to thank you for this question. i was adopted when i was younger, and couldn't be happier. the people that adopted me took me out of a situation that would have been a lot worse for me in the long run. granted i had to deal with my parents divorce, and an abusive mother(adopted mother) it's still been very much worth it. my father and i are extremely close and i wouldn't trade it for the world. i wouldn't miss the experiences i've had.

Answer 2

Have you ever noticed that majority of adopted children were adopted as infants or toddlers. There is a reason for that, not saying it is right. The older you get the more you have seen and learned. It is harder for an older kid or teenager to accept the fact that they don't have their biological parents raising them for any reason. It is exteremely hard when you know your parent(s) chose drugs over you or just plain didn't want you anymore. So when they are placed in a foster home or adopted they tend to have so much anger within them and/or are afraid to trust another adult in fear they too will leave them. Thats is why most people would rather adopt a child that has less memory of their past. They will have an easier time molding them into a well respected adult in the future.

Answer 3

I believe you're right that not all adopted children will be miserable. Some adoption and foster child situations are really healthy and wonderful. The parents are even better than many natural parents. And some kids have a lot of spunk, toughness, character--whatever you want to call it--to respond to their adversity in positive, constructive ways. They make the most of their situation, grow stronger from it. But adoption or foster homes can be an uncertain situation for many kids, giving them great challenges they usually aren't prepared for. The more sensitive kids don't do very well. It can be pretty rough, causing emotional damage that is carried into adult life.

Answer 4

Stop screaming.

My father was adopted, but he was like 3 days old when it happened so he didn't know until his parents told him (I think when he was a senior in high school). All children are wanted even if it is not for the fact of having a child (like crack whores who have kids so they can get increased cash from the state).

My father led a very happy childhood because he knew he was loved. My grandparents couldn't have children but they loved my dad and his sister (also adopted) as if they had sprouted from Grandma.

Anyone who says they don't want to bring an unwanted child into the world and that is the reason they are for abortion and against adoption is deluded and has an increased idea of themselves. Just because they didn't care enough about themselves to save their virginity for a stable relationship/marriage doesn't mean no one on the face of the planet is going to love the child brought from her promiscuity.
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ps Dave Thomas, the founder of Wendy's was adopted.

Answer 5

I am totally against abortion, however I have seen the effects of children that have been abused in foster care or orphanages. I work at a camp for children with special needs and many of those kids have the disabilities that they do because they were abused, neglected, or mistreated in the foster home or orphanage they were placed in. Though I do agree that putting a child up for adoption is a much better option than an adoption, I can understand why people would be against it.

Answer 6

For some people, they aren't just use to that kind of stuff. They may have come from family that don't like it and learned not to like it. Other people may think that because the child wasn't their own born child then they don't need to worry about them. Some people are too cruel and some are too greedy. One thing though, is even though they may not want to adopt, they can still help out by donating things they don't need to these needy people. Right?? And theirs nothing wrong if someone got adopted.

For me personally, these kids need a family and home like everyone else. They also need someone who can love and care for them because either their loved ones passed away or didn't care much about them.

Answer 7

I don't know why people say that. I know several people who were adopted, or had adopted children that have been quite happy with their lives; at least as happy as people are with their biological families. In fact, I know a family that had 2 adopted kids and 1 biological one, and now that the kids are grown, the adopted ones are a lot closer than the other one.

Answer 8

i am adopted and 43 yoa, i grew up in a loving,and caring environment.i know nothing about my birth parents sometimes i think i want to know, but maybe thetfelt it was better this way
i have 3 daughters of my own and my adopted parents my father passed away 9 years ago and my mother has alzheimers,the love i feel for her has to be the same as love for a birth mother
i have grown up healthy, happy and a very productive life
adoption is for people with Big Hearts and Lots of Love and Patience
and yes i am grateful for my life

Answer 9

i think anyone who has given birth can imagine it would be difficult to give the child up. apart from that, i think the stories that make the media are typically children who grow up and quest for their bio parents. They tell us they hungered all their lives to know, often.

This creates the impression that adoption is hard and never existing would be better. I don't know who doesn't support foster care - no one's advocating murdering orphans, are they?

some people say - you'll be aborting a doctor or an einstein. my dad would say - maybe they're aborting a hitler.

Answer 10

I think it's just a kind of prejudice, really. Orphans and adopted kids tend to be protrayed as suffering a lot, especially when it comes to the classics of literature. Guess it's just a case of people not distinguishing fiction from reality, really. I do think many adopted people are happy, or at least as happy as you can be, being human and all. And, of course, others are sad, too.It's not the fact that you're not with your biological family that counts, just as long as the people you're with care for you. But that's just my opinion...