im young,intelligent and pretty,im educated,strong-minded,white and muslim. i fall in love to a 17 years older blak man who is not rich, and hav a 7 years old daughter from a x-girlfriend.he is african american and i never hav been in the USA. he is much taller then me, and dont know my native language,so i hav to speak english wit him,but my english isnt fluent. he is a good man,and want to marry me. he comes from Harlem and had a bad bakground,but i love him.we text,email,chat wit eachother everyday. am i an idiot??
i hv no child,im 22. i fall in love to his heart, i like his ideas, and his voice turns me on. he isa big blak man,and i like that. he is positive to me..YES,we met online,and thats y we both dont trust eachother 100%. we both r not weak-minded ppl, but love happen. Everything at him attracted me. i want only him. we know each other since Dec-2005. he sent me a few pics of his child. he send me pics of his house. i dont think he lies.
2006-08-09 08:12:45 · 24 answers · asked by she-ra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he was honest and told me his bad bakground also. he got a passport for me,and all he need is a ticket for comming to me. he is saving money now, but i wont giv in since he really is wit me. he dont know my culture,but its ok. the max.time he can stay here is 2weeks. i want to marry,but HE must want it first (in person). then i will live wit him in usa,and continue my education in usa,he will help.
oh god, i really dont know wat to do .thats will a great decision..wat when he act me as a queen,and then turn to a monstere.wat
2006-08-09 08:14:10 · update #1
when he lock me and let dogs eat me...i dont trust men,i trust noone. when i go to usa,i want my native TV programms,wat when he dont giv me wat i want.. and wat when he cheat me? wat when i lose my mind there,because im soo lonely.. i REALLY love him,and he loves me too,wat when i one day say i did a mistake. sometimes it scared him,that i wont love him romantically,he will come next week to me,and im half way around the world far from him.. wat when i born a Blak baby,and divorce him.i dont want to become a single white wit a blak baby. and i dont want to lose him.. wat should i do? he is still saving money.the ticket costs 1000-1200dolar.. when he come to me should i just give in to him. i need to hug him.
(he isnt in Harlem,he is a director in a huge company)
2006-08-09 08:17:23 · update #2
wow, this is a mini series. If you think you have true feelings for him, at least give it a chance. But do not get married so quickly. Take your time to get to know each other better in person. If its meant to be then you will know. Stop with the what ifs and let things flow.
2006-08-09 08:35:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can say is follow your heart. But since I know many ppl of ur culture I do not think your father will approve of this marraige so you must make sure he does or i am sure he will disown you either that or still marry this man and live in disownment of your family
2006-08-09 08:18:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you scared that he is insincere? That suddenly, he will one day wake up and become a monster? Well, I'll be honest...you should be afraid. It has nothing to do with him being a black man (I am a black woman)...but it has more to do with the fact that PEOPLE lie on the internet. You can never be certain that he is completely honest to you. But if I were you, I'd really be careful. But listen to your heart. You already know what it's telling you.
2006-08-09 08:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to meet him and go out a few times, just spend some time being with him and then make your decision. Don't be too hasty about this. But it does sound like love.
All the best hon!
2006-08-09 08:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by sassy_sexy_honey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when he comes to visit you give him little test,and see how his temper is and introduce him to a male friend of yours to see how he acts if hes real insecure or get angry at you.then after that follow your heart because if you dont youll always be wondering what if? and if you go and hes not right then go back home,if not theres a lot of black men in the usa to choose from.
2006-08-09 08:24:39 · answer #5 · answered by minnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your love on line baby... dont be stupid running off to the US. You are too young to know what the worlds all about. Speak to your parents and seek their help or just shut up and forget him and do something more worthwhile rather than wasting your time
2006-08-09 08:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by suresh s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are as good as you descrice yourself,why you need to seek love in the net,I know why,no one can stand you in the real life,thats why you turn to the net.pLEASe............even you got raped,cheated by him,who cares about an ignorant slut like you
2006-08-16 23:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by Janet Y 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur so dumb...im muslim too.....this is not right...havent u heard any of the bad stories..he could be having sex with a different girl everyday?....ur so naive...u dont do that...it hurts to think this way but he is probably just messing with ur head or kinda needs someone to talk to...dont get serious this is not love...u just like the attention...u'll kill ur family....allah help u
2006-08-09 08:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by chaand5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i wana talk 2 u about this cuz i have the same thing like u but the different is am muslim.......anyways my email is noura_kassem2001 by the way am egyptians and i live in usa
just im me now
2006-08-09 08:25:42 · answer #9 · answered by xsxsxsx36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't care what color he is ,But I would not trust anyone .
He could be insane.Do a back ground check on him before you do anything.
He could be a pimp trying to get more hookers.He could be a wonderfull man.You never know.
2006-08-09 08:17:21 · answer #10 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋