It seems like every one i let in my life and trust **** me over and now i cant trust anybody and everybody let me down in tha past 6 months when my ex broke up with me. they werent there for me no one was but myself. Now that ive built walls up to keep people out how do i get to that place were i can trust people again? Its like I forgot how ta trust. Am i just ****** or is there some kinda solution?
2006-08-09 08:12:28 · 6 answers · asked by Katie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It takes time...stop giving complete trust to people until they've earned it in some way...you don't have to automatically mistrust people, but reserve judgement until you feel fairly comfortable they are trustworthy individuals...
Mistrusting everyone will leave you with few friends and dating options...and often people feel those that don't trust others, are probably that way because they know they cannot be trusted themselves...
Proceed slowly in the future...but don't mistrust everyone because a few people let you down...there are plenty out there who will not!
2006-08-09 08:18:34 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ya say you've built walls-emotionally and internally i assume based on how that is said. You've gotta find within ur self, the understanding . Maybe give ur self a break , take a year of being single- yes a year- i know it's along time. But maybe in that time you'll find who u are and truly see the type of people that deserve you the most. No one should settle for less then they'd ask for. Do some traveling, get into a club or group-something aside from the datting circle. Something absoultly on the flip side of things to distract your mind and focus it on a personal interest or goal. In in the process of this-you'll learn about who u are and if anything find out something new and neat! An over time when involved in these new interest-maybe there'll be someone who'll click on the same level as u-and you'll have a common interest to come too and maybe then you can see one another if things look on the up side. Stepping outside of what ya normally are not into -maybe is what will be the best medicine or remedy. I know its a bit out there but maybe plunging into something new out there is what will do the trick. All the best to you. Sorry things haven't been the greatest and , you've gotta keep that wall strong you've built and keep it cemented!
2006-08-09 08:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by angieco44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off I'm sorry that you have been let down by the people in your life. It really sucks, but you can't build a wall and keep everybody out, if nothing else you could be a little wiser and feel good about that. Move on and enjoy life and people. Free yourself from bitterness cos in the end it will only cos you pain while they moved on in their life..good luck.
2006-08-09 08:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time. It will all take time. You need to realize that not women/men are the same. Just because one hurt you doesn't mean another will. It took me a long time to let go of the pain and hurt and mistrust but I did. I have found a wonderful man because of it. Dont make someone pay the consequences for the mistakes of another.
2006-08-09 08:18:18 · answer #4 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something that is earned over time. You are not supposed to just trust everyone. It takes time to build relationships and establish trust. I personally think walls (boundaries) are good to have. I don't think you have forgotten how to trust, but rather you are growing and learning how to protect yourself.
2006-08-09 08:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by curiousgeorgia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time, hun. It's all about time.
2006-08-09 08:17:17 · answer #6 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋