in life you either take it or leave it no in between but love its hard. to tell yourself that you might have to let that person that means everything to you go its hard its torture to even think of it.
its not his decision its mine but i dont know if to do it or not, we have been through some hard times its more like he has money problems but i have been waiting for so long that my hopes for our happiness arent as high as they where a yr ago.
i love him and i know it and i also know he loves me but about a yr ago he started smoking weed. now he doesnt care about anything and his life is a total wreck i cant get him to understand that that drug is holding him back.
he says its not true and doesnt realize that hes is so close to losing me. what should i do stay and help him? or leave? i really love him but that drug is destroying us and i dont think hes going to leave it any time soon
im 20 hes 21 2yr relationship
2006-08-09 08:12:27 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Forget him and move on. I doubt you'll be able to change him. 2 years is not very long when you're that young, so you're not losing much. And you'll be much better off with someone more responsible. You've done everything you can to help him, and it hasn't worked. Leave him and stay away, even if he claims to have changed. Good luck!
2006-08-09 08:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically he uses weed as an escape. If you feel strongly against it, you shouldn't be with him, especially if its hindering your relationship. He doesn't realize that he's close to loosing you....have you talked to him? Tell him that you don't like what its doing to him, and to you. You might have to help him through quitting, I heard its not that hard to quit, apparently my friend says its not addictive, so if he really wanted to stop, he could. You'll find if he cares about you enough, then he'll stop. There is no point in being with someone longer then 2 years, in my opinion if you don't see a happy future with the one that you are with.
Sorry, but you have to loko out what will be better for you. Leaving him will be hard, but be strong, stand your ground, still be there for him if he needs you, it wont be as hard if you aren't romantically involved in it. You obviously care about him a great deal, so I hope he realizes he's loosing a great girl!
2006-08-09 08:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him, and he will learn and try to straighten up becuase he will want you back... and then you set guidlines and dont take him unless he is clean and starts getting his life in order becuase hes not the person you fell in love with any more.... but on the pesemist side... ya he'll be clean for a month or 2 get you back and be happy and start doing that crap again... if he does go back to it eventually then you know its over becuase a mistake is a mistake but if he makes it twice he will probably never stop giving you problems and it will be hell... i say dump him give him the chance to clean up and get you back if he does great but if he goes back to it get rid of him for good....
2006-08-09 08:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by stiffler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋