She is a terror, she is 6 and lands right in the middle of her brothers. Why is she so rude and mean to everyone? She talked back to me once (Didn't last long) but why does she go out of her way to be so evil to everyone?
2006-08-09 08:02:50 · 9 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I've spanked her, slapped her for talking back, given her time outs, and even made her do a chore by herself because she has refused to help her brohters (in a community chore). I won't send her to her room because that's her way out of having to do her jobs. (Took me awhile to figure that one out.)
I ove her but I don't really know how to handle a daughter as my mom ignored me growing up. I had no direction and now it's trickeling down to her. I want to be a good mom to her I just don't understand how girls work. ( I grew up being more one of the boys).
2006-08-09 08:15:32 · update #1
Her brothers get the most blame. My oldest was very disrespectful of her once for a few days straight. To teach him not to disrespect a girl I let my daughter dish out the punishment. She made him clean her room. I try to be equal with all of them, I just don't know anything about girls.
2006-08-09 08:25:53 · update #2
At the age of six she thinks she knows everything! Not to mention she is trying to stand her ground between four boys. Just do what your doing and stand firm. If it doesn't work...get firmer. Maybe reward her for positive behavior by scheduling a girls day out. She needs to know being a girl is just as special as being a boy. Don't let her break you! It's hard ...good luck!
2006-08-09 08:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 14⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like there might be a couple things going on. 1) Her communication skills aren't adequate enough to express what she's feeling and that leads to frustration. 2) you may not be enforcing discipline consistently. Are the rules different for her than the boys? Maybe she sees you raising your voice as a reward (because it is a form of attention).
It probably wouldn't hurt to see a child therapist for a while to get some ideas about why she is acting the way she is and get some behavior modification tools.
2006-08-09 15:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by darthbouncy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes not evil she probably just upset because she the only girl you should take her out for quality time away from all the boys. She just wants some attention teach her to be a girl take her shopping spend some time with put her in a class like ballet or gymnastics with other girls her age.
2006-08-09 15:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by Alexia S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? This kid has the run of the house. She even gets to discipline her brothers. That's messed up...give that kind of authority to a 6-yr-old and of course she's going to think she can talk and act to everyone however she wants. If you don't want her to act like a brat, take control of her and punish her for being rude to people.
2006-08-09 16:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you allow it.
It is MUCH easier to be strict early on and relax later than to try and rein in a total brat; swat her if she ever disrespects any one else (she might be trained to respect you, so she feels inclined to take it out on everyone else around her), including siblings, and seek professional help if her violence or mistreatment of others extends to complete strangers or adults (teachers, etc.) - she may have anxiety or some issue that needs to be coaxed out of her.
My daughters, 15 and 13, are honors students and well behaved young women.
good luck!
2006-08-09 15:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Middle child syndrome. She's not a "big" as her older brothers, she's not the baby anymore. She needs some way to get attention. Sounds like being the "bad girl" is how she's getting that attention.
2006-08-09 15:08:24 · answer #6 · answered by AzOasis8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my guess is as the only girl she has been spoiled and
babied. better late than never. start today set limits
and let her know the consequenses of going over them.
good luck.
ps. get the rest of the family with the program and make
sure the rules apply all the time. nothing is worse than
mixed signals.
2006-08-09 15:12:20 · answer #7 · answered by agedlioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is the only girl with 4 boys and basically she can. she is not a TERROR, she is marking her TERRitory with them boys she is probably working hard for it too, i bet she is the one who always gets caught or gets the blame , then if that's the case she is looking for attention she probably needs a bit of your time just you and her to do something girlie even if its walking to the local chemist and buying a cheap 99p lippie as a girlie gift for her , just an idea!! best of luck
2006-08-09 15:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by shelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm assuming you not black because if you were you would have all ready tore her @$$ up. Next time she does something rude go get a switch off a tree and you figure out the rest.
2006-08-09 15:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by Stunnas on got my stunnas on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋