the other day me and my b/f were talkin and he was askin me questions about if i would ever marry him and stuff like that. Then he said that hes been thinkin and he wants to propose to me and that he has a ring picked out but he wants to see how i handle a few things first. i asked him what he meant by that and he said youll see then just rolled over and went to sleep. ive been tryin to figure it out ever since he said it....but i cant.....does anyone have a clue?????
2006-08-09 07:16:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What it really means is that he's testing you. I don't know if that is the type of thing that would offend you or if you welcome the "challenge" but it probably means that he's paying close attention to the way you react to certain situations.
Personally I don't think it's a very nice thing to make your girlfriend jump through hoops like a show animal before you propose. Either he wants to marry you or he doesn't. Then again, maybe he really is just clearing up some last minute doubts. Either way, if I were you I'd pay really close attention to him for awhile, listen to the things he's saying and treat him as lovingly as you normally would, that kind of thing.
Good luck and I hope he proposes!
2006-08-09 08:31:12 · answer #1 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it just means that he is 99% sure he wants to be with you forever and he wants to be 100% sure before he asks you to marry him. It could also mean that he just told you that to trick you so that when he does ask you, you will be really surprised because you thought he was going to "test" you. Who knows really. If you think he is being serious about testing you then for the next few weeks....and well for the rest of your life for that matter, try to be a good girlfriend. Don't get overly jealous if he goes out with the guys. Be polite to his family. Maybe if you and his mom have a good relationship you could go out to lunch with her or something. There is nothing wrong with him wanting to make sure that you are 100% the right one for him. At least that shows that he cares about what marriage means and isn't just jumping into something that he isn't ready for.
2006-08-09 14:24:37 · answer #2 · answered by d.boughey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that comes to my mind is that some of the skeletons in his closet are about to come out. However, it might not be as complicated as that. It could be something as simple as meeting his parents and the rest of his family. Alternatively, he might want to see how he fits with your parents and family. This is something that is as individualized as the person asking it so that statement could mean one of about 1000 different things.
Unfortunately, there really isn't much you can do but wait and see because if you push too hard, he might walk away. Sorry - that answer doesn't help much I realize.
2006-08-09 23:15:25 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats horrible that he would need to test you before he proposes. That is playing games and it is not healthy to do that. He is only going to play games with your head the entire time you two are married.
2006-08-09 16:07:37 · answer #4 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to see how you will react to things...you gotta be very easy going it what it seems to me. Don't be uptight! He loves you, I just think that he wants to make sure you're in the same position as he's in...and on the same level...you'll be fine! GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-09 14:26:12 · answer #5 · answered by Imthelittlesis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants to see how you'd react to kids?
I'd tell him that you don't appreciate what he's doing to you. It's not fair of him to play mindgames with you. It's a bad start to your relationship together.
2006-08-09 16:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me as if he want to see if you can Handel.being with him all the time.and that he's going to put you through a test. and see how well you and he are compatible on being married or not. good luck
2006-08-09 14:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it means your gonna get tested on stuff that he wants to see how you react to certain situations. dont panic... but then again... DONT SCREW UP! haha dont worry you will be fine he loves you.
2006-08-09 14:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by spencer k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋