She has recently put on weight that is noticeable. How can I be sensitive telling her she needs to lose it. I'm afraid that what I say will seriously hurt her
2006-08-09 07:02:53 · 20 answers · asked by Clark K. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you've noticed that she's put on weight, so has she, so you don't need to bring it to her attention.
If you want to help her a little, suggest fun physical activities/dates for the two of you.
Go hiking, biking, walking or jogging, etc. Buy a frisbee or a nerf football and head to a local park and have some fun tossing it around. Play tennis, one-on-one basketball, or another sport you both enjoy. It will be something fun, and healthy, you can share together.
You might also consider learning to cook together. Suggest cooking a meal together as little as once a week, and choose healthy foods. Again, its something fun, and healthy, that you do with her.
2006-08-09 07:20:21 · answer #1 · answered by Miss B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Join the gym and ask her to come along... or every evening, instead of sitting on the couch, go for a walk and have a good conversation. She will really like that and will be willing to do that every evening! And walking burns a lot of calories!!! :) Also, think of some activities that BOTH of you could do together--she will not even notice that you are making her lose weight, all she will see is that you want to spend time with her ACTIVELY... the main thing is--do not let this be her 'thing'-- it is two of now...
2006-08-09 14:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Просто Я 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the weight is not bothering her then it shouldn't bother u!! now if its a genuine health concern, let her know that u wanna join a gym and offer her a paid membership..
go for a walk and ask her if she'd like to join u since it's nice out.. start buying lots of spring water.. stop buying junk food, replace it w/fruits.. workout in the house and ask her if she wants to join u..
if u bring up her weight, even in the most sensitive manner it still will be insensitive cause it's not ur place..
what do u look like, being that u feel the need to be addressing her problem and not ur own..
2006-08-09 14:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really a selfish thing for you to even consider doing. If she wants to lose weight for herself then thats wonderful, but if you don't love her for who she is then you don't deserve her. I realize her weight is bothering you so u can imagine how it makes her feel. If you tell her that you are very insensitive. Maybe you could suggest going hiking or skating, try to keep her busy so she can burn calories without you having to say anything. Set a good example and eat right in front of her and maybe it'll rub off. Good luck.
2006-08-09 14:13:22 · answer #4 · answered by Phyllis D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think about the only way to do that is to ask her to go on a run with you, or if she's like to go to the gym or something. The only way to do it is drop the subtlist of hints, and make her think you'll like her more if she loses weight...without ever saying anything of the sort.
2006-08-09 14:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by Phoenix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her without opening your mouth, because there's NO way to vocalize your concern without disaster. Invite her to go jogging/rollerblading/whatever with you, invite her over for dinner and serve a grilled chicken salad. That sort of thing. Girls aren't nearly as oblivious to that sort of subtle message as we guys are. You just can't make any decisions for her, or be at all confrontational about it-- she'll resist your suggestions out of sheer resentment.
2006-08-09 14:12:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you love to eat healthy and how exercising is really important to you. Don't blurt out that she is overweight, but let her know you like a healthy lifestyle and there are ways to stay healthy and no overweight
2006-08-09 14:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by misomeow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really appreciate ur sensitivity towards ur girl...
be honest. Tell her u love her, and accept her just as she is.
But u also worry about her health. . .
join the gym With her, if u may.
u two could spend more time together...
2006-08-09 14:09:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you want to start yourself on a new diet and exercise more often than you already do, but you need someone to do it with you for emotional support. Put it all on yourself as to why you want her to do it
2006-08-09 14:09:09 · answer #9 · answered by yotaguy_26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be committing relationship suicide, if you uttered so much as one word that she has gained weight. Offer to go for walks with her, start eating good foods that aren't fattening. If she asks what that changes are for, tell her it's for you. haha
2006-08-09 14:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by SassySours 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋