Like most females, i have always had a bit of a self esteem problem.My mother is partially to blame.She claims that my legs are too skinny , that i have a f ucked up shape and she always throws it in my face.I am 5'6" and 135 pounds. She told me that my stomach was too large today. Why is she doing this to her own flesh and blood?
2006-08-09 07:00:56 · 11 answers · asked by bkempress718 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your mother is most likely attacking YOU because she herself has self-esteem issues. I don't think she actually hates you, she's just a little...ummmmm...confused.
Have you ever said anything to her? I mean, you're right - it's NOT nice to say things like that to anyone, let alone your own kids.
Maybe the next time she says something you could respond with, "You know Mother, when you criticize me on things I have no control over ... like the thickness of my legs... you really hurt my feelings. You always told me not to say anything, if I didn't have something nice to say, so I would really appreciate it if you would follow your own advice!" This just might shock her enough to make her take a step back and look at how wrong she is!
2006-08-09 07:06:47 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your mother may have mental health issues. Don't believe her disparaging remarks. 135 is not too much for a person of 5'6.
You must look for ways to get your self esteem up that does not depend on her opinions. Make a list of all your good qualities inside and out and read them often to boost yourself up, ignore your Moms comments. Good Luck to you
2006-08-09 14:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur moms a bum.. let her know her negative comments make u stronger.. as long as u know ur not those things than u should be okay.. but if u have low self esteem u should see a counselor and get help because it can lead u to do negative things especially since ur mother is not helping the subject..
let her know that ur an image of her the next time she makes a negative comment...
2006-08-09 14:07:22 · answer #3 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear
I hope i know how to make your mother to realize how dear you r to her coz u r, maybe she knows but needs some one to remind her, you do nothing dear but being with her most of the times, help her , enjoy times with her , and let her see how great lady you are then step by step she will know for sure that she was wrong..
best wishes dear
2006-08-09 14:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Clark794 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and u r the exact same size except i'm 5'5 and i weigh 135 pounds 2 my mother does that to me 2 so u have 2 learn 2 except the fact that she calls u those names just ignore them and think in ur head that ur beautiful everyone is beautiful in their own way good luck gurl : )
2006-08-09 14:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by ( beautiful . *] 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl...the people who are the closest to us are the ones who can hurt us the most. Continue to love your mother BUT... you don't have to accept the negative things she says. every time she says something negative say something positive! Build yourself up regardless what she thinks.
2006-08-09 14:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by Trailblaza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to keep you in the house don't want you to go out of the house. take a deep breathe and listen to me you sound great, just let her saying bounce off you, ok
2006-08-09 14:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by IndyMM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be she wants you to look the best
2006-08-09 14:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by ANGEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no just don't listen to her she probably wanted to be how you are when she was your age
2006-08-09 14:30:46 · answer #9 · answered by prettyinpink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's jealous, or you're starving yourself.
2006-08-09 14:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by BigPappa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋