im gonna try to put as much info as possible. so somehwere in april, i really like this girl. i even asked her out pretty stupidly. left a note and all. couple days later, shes in fl and leaves a text saying "she has too many thigns going on and she cant be with anyone righ tnow." now of course i was hurt but i didnt show it at all. i got better though throught my frosh year, but it just wasnt the same. we got really close again and i even began to like her. suddenly freakin today the worst possible thing happened. she just started dating htis other guy that she was really close too. and to think i had the chance? like i didnt care at first over the summer, but now i feel like crap that she didnt choose me and seh chose him. and this girl is like the first girl ive fell for this bad. shes amazing and its so tough saying for me to forget her. yea i made a promise awhile ago after she sent the txt, that if she goes out with someone else, i shouldnt give her a chance anymore. what do ido?
2006-08-09 06:46:01 · 33 answers · asked by some jersey kid 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well seems to me like you care deeply for her. However when you care about someone so much you want them to be happy right? Well sorry to tell you this but I think her being happy may not include you as her boyfriend. I'm not saying your a bad choice I'm sure there is someone out there who will love and appreciate you for who you are and won't make you feel this badly. You don't have to forget her or stop caring about her. There's no reason why you can't care about her. You just have to realise that you must move on and start to care for her as just a friend and find someone who returns the feelings you have for them. I'd be lying if I said time heals all wounds or that you're probably young so you will get over it. That's definetly not how it happens for everyone. But with time it will get better even if it doesn't feel that way right now. Don't get down on yourself. Try surrounding yourself with good friends and family and keep living life. Maybe later if you two are meant to be together it will happen but right now it doesn't seem that way. Anyways if she doesn't see how much you care about her I don't think she deserves to be with you, atleast not right now. I believe there is someone out there for everyone who will love and appreciate them just how they are. It's just a matter of finding them.
2006-08-09 06:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain, (even if I'm a girl), I think that if you are hurting this bad over someone that hasn't returned your feelings, then you should move on, it may take a while. I'm sure that she's amazing and everything else. Just be there for her and say that no matter what happens to her- you'll always be her friend. She may need a guy to talk to if things get rocky between her and the other guy. Then maybe when she isn't going out with him anymore, you two can reconnect. But, as much as it's going to hurt you- you need to give her some space, because it won't help what's left of your realtionship if you're always talking to her about "the other guy." Just be there for her and someday you two might be able to get together. In the meantime, spend time with your friends, talk to them about this, they may be able to offer more insight to this situation.
2006-08-09 06:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds to me like the girl respected your feelings and wanted to let you down in a very pleasant manner. The fact that she started dating someone shows that to her you didn't really click as a dating couple but, probably as friends. It sounds like you feel resentment towards her for dating someone else which could affect your friendship. If you are hurting it is not good to keep it all bottled up. This will come out at a later date possibly when you are with her, and I don't think that will make you more likable towards her. It happens to us all, we fall for people that don't return our feelings, but you will always get over it and remember there is a person out there for you and your time will come. At that time you will look back at this hard time and laugh, and you will be saying.....who was that girl I liked again?
Trust me man it will get a whole lot better! Relax enjoy yourself!
2006-08-09 06:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by billyboysblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it didn't happen between you, then there is a bigger reason behind it. I feel like my marriage fell apart so I could meet the wonderful amazing man I am engaged to now. Some things can't be forced. See the whole picture. Live your life. Don't feel bad about yourself. It wasn't a contest. He didn't win "the prize". Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get out there and look for the right girl. It hurts now, but it gets better.
2006-08-09 06:55:03 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel dude...I mean exactly. But mine was worse, the girl I asked out asked me to the god damn prom and then turned around and said she didn't want to be in a relationship at the time but that she really liked me (of course she did...she asked me to prom)...month later I hear from our mutual friend that she's dating some other guy...haven't talked to her since and I'm 21 now...I liked her since the first time a saw her (freshman year Highschool) and I finally had the time of day four years later (senior year highschool) only for that **** to happen. Forget about this girl man...next thing you know when the guy treats her like **** she'll be running to you with all of her problems.
2006-08-09 06:54:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just telling my story, same thing has happened to me too. But i couldn't even ask her out because she's too busy and now she is in love with another guy and she said she will try to make some time to go out with him. I thought she was special and she would show me the secrets of love, first I was very sad then I'm angry on her because she broke my heart in the most impossible ugly way. I will never forgive her! You know what we, we should forget those girls and continue our life and maybe there will girls that would like to share moments with us. She has broken my heart last night. I show her that i like her but she just didn't care and has hurt me so badly. it will take some time to recover but this is life.Let's forget this moments and go on with our lives.
2006-08-09 07:07:19 · answer #6 · answered by Soso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though she is seeing someone else I think you should tell her how you feel and get it off your chest.You never know she could change her mind. Women often do that. If she doesn't then hey you just have to get over it, at least you can say you tried. There are plenty of beautiful women out there that are looking for a nice guy.
2006-08-09 06:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its pretty hard to dismiss someone you care for. You dont have to completely stop talking to her but she made her choice. She told you before that she didnt want to be with anyone right now which means she didnt want to be with you. She clearly likes you as a friend and thats all. There are plenty of girls out there. Go find one that wants to be with you. You can be friends with this other girl but thats all it will ever be. Dont wait around for something that wont happen.
2006-08-09 06:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you liked her this bad then seams a shame to loss her just because maybe shes not seen u in a certain was you have to be pashinent be there for her and don't come on to her then wen shes had i fight or probs with her bf shell prob come to you and start seeing you in a different light I'm not saying you have a chance, if it happens its gona happen but my best advice would be find some one new don't forget about this girl and see what happens you may find some one your happy with and who really does like you back. hope i helped
2006-08-09 06:54:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay true to your promise. She had a chance to be with you and didn't want it. Sounds by her behavior that she just wants to be friends....or at least wants to make sure you hang around while she dates other people. Which isn't fair. You're young- getting over the first one is hard. You'll find someone who returns your feelings.
2006-08-09 06:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋