im 15 and my mom is going through a tough time she crys
alot and is really sad shes 49 yrs old ,is there anything i can do
to make her happier??? if u can think of somthing it would help!!!!
2006-08-09 06:28:27 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i help her around the house alot,its
the first time i ever in my life seen
her cry so...and her problems r personal
but there are many of them .
2006-08-09 08:20:33 · update #1
How sweet of you to be concerned for your mom. You aren't stating what she is having a tough time with and I assume you want to keep personal details out of this. The only thing you can do, doll, is be supportive and let her know that if she needs anything special from you (like running a nice bath or getting her something to drink or even a shoulder) she can count on you. Maybe talking to another adult who is your mom's friend would help. With you only being 15, I am sure it is hard for you to understand what your mom must be going through. Don't let it get you down. We adults sometimes have to go through a few phases to get back where we once were. Please try to continue to do what you would normally do on a daily basis. I am sure your mom will be fine soon. Good luck, sweetie!
2006-08-09 06:35:37 · answer #1 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Well, I didn't take the time to read all the other responses. So, I'm sorry if I repeat a few things here. With that being said... I'll begin...
Are your parents still together? If so, have dad and mom both sit down and talk to them. Let them know that you know mom is extremely depressed and it's bothering you as well. Tell them that there is nothing more important to you then their happiness. And just build from there...
If mom and dad are no longer together then just sit her down. Reassure her that you will help out in any way you can. She may be feeling stressed do to being a single mom. She may simply be feeling lonely. Encourage her to get out and do things that she enjoys. Rather it be with you or with some of her friends. If she don't have any friends encourage her to try and contact some old friends.. Possibly high school or college friends. A person will tend to break down if all they do is wake up, go to work, come home and cook clean day in and day out. Make her a coupon book with things in it "like take the night off, let me cook and clean for you".. Or save some money and take her to the movies...
You know your mom better then any of us here on the net. Use your best judgment, but most important let her know how much you love her and that there is nothing that will change that. Good Luck my young friend!!! Keep the faith!
2006-08-09 13:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by drifet_18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try surpising your mother by doing something that she wouldn't expect of you. If you aren't in the habit of cleaning up then do so or maybe make her a nice surprise meal. It may not help out with the depression or funk that she is in for a long time but I bet for a short while that you will see your mom smile and laugh once again. Mom's are fragile and at her age it could be a mid-life thing as suggested by others. Most importantly let your mom know that your there for her if she needs you and how much you love her as this will also make your mom feel happy if only just briefly. Things will get better and you'll get your old mom back, trust me on that one please.
2006-08-09 13:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realy dear i dont know whats your mother's problem,but that doesnt mean we dont help her so some goings out with you will help for sure and you need to show her all the time that u r no longer a little girl no you are her frnd and some one who can handle problems and not just hear them no but who can make a deffrence , so yeah be there for her all the time
By the way my mom is 49 too
2006-08-09 13:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by Clark794 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try writing her a little note telling her how much you love her & that you think she's a wonderful mom..pick her a flower and tell her it's just because you love her...walk up to her and give her a hug out of the blue and whisper "I love you mom" in her ear. Those little things mean SO MUCH...
It sounds like she's going through a really hard time...you can make it better by helping her around the house (IF you don't already) - offer to take some of the chores off of her shoulders....just cause we're mothers doesn't make us immune from pain & heartache..
I applaud you for watching out for her, she is lucky to have you for a child...good for you..you should be proud of yourself!
2006-08-09 13:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a shoulder to cry on and a listening ear. Watch for symptoms of depression. If symptoms get worse try talking to a family member that could possibly convince her to see a doctor. There may just be a bigger problem than just listening can help.
2006-08-09 13:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by lisaquinn9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that you need to do is find out what is bothering her. If you are trying to make her happy without getting to the root of the problem then this is not going to help be happy. If you want to help let her know that you are there if she needs to talk, and whatever it is she can be sure to count on you.
2006-08-09 13:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by Hotbox25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just help her out as much as you can (with chores around the house or with siblings). Let her know that you love her and you are worried about her and tell her if she needs anything, you will be there for her.
2006-08-09 13:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Lab Rat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good on you for caring enough to ask!
Just be there to support her whatever it takes. If she wants to talk - listen to her, if she wants to be left alone - don't bother her. Don't ask her what her problem is but maybe just ask her how things are going. If she doesn't want to talk, leave her be but let her know that you're there if she wants to talk later.
And try not to do the things that you know annoy her ...
2006-08-09 14:02:29 · answer #9 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you care, and maybe invite her to a pizza and movie night just the two of you. Everbody can find a bit of happiness and clarity while they're eating pizza.
2006-08-09 13:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Papa Dino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋