why is my woman not aggressive with me...i mean when it comes to sex..we have great sex..and shewill do whatever i want..but i am tired of going for it..i want her to come get it...
Should I even be trippin..
I should just be happy that she is open with me and willing to try anything new...I am not trying to let her go at all I just wish she were more agressive...
WOMEN what do you think...is there anything that i can do to get this from her?
2006-08-09 06:06:25 · 16 answers · asked by sexxybeaz69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I tell her all the times i want her to be ore aggressive..she says that she is intimated by me..
2006-08-09 06:19:20 · update #1
It's natural for someone to be somewhat shy and passive about sex. Not willing to take the wheel and drive with it. If you two are really new about sex, just try to give it time. If you two have been intimate with one another for a while now then simply talk to her about it. Make sure it doesn't seem like you're being critical of her or that you're unsatisfied with the sex you two are having. Instead, make sure the overall tone of the conversation is simply encouraging her to be more aggressive in getting things going and also how things go between the two of you during the act. If there is any one particular instance that you can think of where she was a little more aggressive than the rest of the times, make sure to let her know how much of a turn on that was and that you really enjoyed it.
2006-08-09 06:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Welll, if she's open and willing to try new things, bring it up (very delicately!!) to her. If you all do games, use that angle. If not, then say pretty much what you said here--minus a few lines. Most women are afraid, deep down, that you only initiate sex when you want it, and if they do, you might not want it: wrong time, tired, she's not dressed sexy enough, etc. (yeah, I know--on what planet do men not want to have sex?!) But, if you do talk to her and she tries, I would say BE SURE to make sure that when she tries it the first time you go for it in a big way...remember, you're asking her to expand her sexual 'comfort zone', she has to get a positive reaction if she tries. Good luck!
2006-08-09 13:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. People in relationships tend to forget that communication is everything. If you can't tell her what you want, or how you feel - she is never going to know. Just like men, we can't read minds either. Just make sure you're polite and to the point about it. So basically you're the one who always makes the move? And she willingly does whatever you want - but she enjoys it and is very much open to it? That's how my relationship was with my boyfriend. I never went in for the move...because I just got used to him doing it and then I just never thought about it, ya know? So I'm willing to bet what's going on is somewhat like that. Eventually, my boyfriend and I were talking and he mentioned it - I asked him if he really wanted me to, and he said yes. And I told him that wasn't a problem. And from then on it's now pretty much an equal mix of who makes the move or goes for it. Just tell her, and if you're polite and honest about it - I'm sure it will all work out. Take care!
2006-08-09 13:14:38 · answer #3 · answered by ------ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JSO has it just right... I don't have as much of a sex drive as my man does, but when I'm on my period and we have to wait until it's over, I'm tearing up the sheets to get at him and he loves it!
Absolutely, let her wait for awhile... I'd say no more than a week
2006-08-09 13:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal L ™ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to be aggressive.
I had the same problem with my man (i know weird right) he's too passive. But a good talk should fix it.
Tell her you don't mind being the aggressor most of the time, but you would really like it if she came to you every once and a while
2006-08-09 13:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by attila 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her how you feel and let her know that it turns you on when she takes control and is more aggresive with you but otherwise I don think there is anything to worry bout
2006-08-09 13:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way things are going to change is if you talk to her. So tell her I will tell you one thing about our sex life if you tell me one thing. That way you can know what is on her mind as well.
2006-08-09 13:15:06 · answer #7 · answered by vsecrets24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe just ask her if there is anything she wouldlike you to do to her - she may just be embarrassed to say it outright - or else make up a competition that you ensure you lose - the prize being the winner gets the loser to do WHATEVER sexual things they like!!!
2006-08-09 13:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you make sex for her more than you she will eventually come to your for it. But shes probably one of those girls who likes it no matter what and wants to sit back and enjoy it.
2006-08-09 13:11:32 · answer #9 · answered by houseman2012 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit going after her...she knows you're going to, she's taking it for granted. Make her come get you....she won't be able to wait too long, you just better hope you can
2006-08-09 13:10:17 · answer #10 · answered by jso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋