2006-08-09 06:06:12 · 20 answers · asked by AnaHi82 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Since you have already made the grown up decision to live together then you and your live in should pay for the wedding.
Good luck!
2006-08-09 06:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is more traditional for the bride-to-be's family to pay for the wedding, times have changed. My husband and I got married in March and we payed for our wedding because we didn't want either of our families making the decisions for "our day" without us. I think that if either of your families are going to pay for all or part of the wedding, you both need to have a serious conversation with them and let them all know that the two of you make the decisions, no matter who's paying for it. All you want is to show up to your own wedding and nothing be the way you want it. On the other hand, if you and your boyfriend decide to pay for it, it's very expensive and that's a large burden for newlyweds. Whatever you decide, I hope this helps.
2006-08-09 13:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditions dictate that the bride's family pay, but with the new era of weddings, the couple getting married try to handle the cost as not to burden the parents. Good Luck!
2006-08-09 13:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of my friends parents have paid for their weddings... but since MY bf and I live together we'll be paying for our own. Our families will help where they can... but by no means are we having a $20k wedding. I have been fortunate enough to have a friend who is a florist, bartender, photographer and DJ so that's all free for us!
Plus, I agree with everyone else... if you pay for it... it's your day and you get to pick what you want to have. And don't break the bank doing it... taking out a loan is a serious problematic way to start you marriage.
2006-08-09 13:28:31 · answer #4 · answered by kristinaanneblack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what your family feels should happen. My husband and I lived together for 3 years and just got married. We paid for at least half of the wedding because my parents are in a tight spot as far as money goes. So they might pay or you might...depends on your family situation.
Good luck!
2006-08-09 13:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting married, you must be an adult. Adults pay for their own weddings unless others in the family VOLUNTEER to help with any of the costs.
2006-08-09 20:08:51 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would never let my parents pay for my wedding. They will hold it over my head forever.
I think people respect things more when they pay for it themselves. I would try to save up and pay for it myself...unless you want some huge story book wedding, then I would talk to BOTH sets of parents to see what kind of budget you can arrange.
2006-08-10 01:44:59 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Given the circumstances, you should probably not expect anything from either family and it wouldn't be unusual for them not to contribute.
If either family offer to contribute, great but it's their choice so try not to let that affect whether or not the other family should contribute (eg my sister's fiancee's family is putting in half for her wedding and are not happy with the fact that my parents are not putting in the other half).
2006-08-09 13:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's something to discuss with both families. my husband and i lived together for a year while we were engaged and planning our wedding, and all of us paid for parts of the wedding. his parents pitched it and footed the catering, my parents did the photographer, and we paid for the flowers and church... talk it out with everyone and come to some agreements on it, or it can put a strain on the wedding plans and on the two of you..
best of luck...
2006-08-09 22:28:59 · answer #9 · answered by daisylady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are all grown up and out on your own, you should be paying for your own wedding. After all, you have been playing house so far, so it's all on you.
2006-08-10 04:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋