what can i do i cant visit him at home.i cant call him when he is home but yet he says he loves me
2006-08-09 05:17:55 · 35 answers · asked by lilly 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
the girl knows about me.she calls me most times to leave her guy but when i started with him he did not tell me about her
2006-08-09 05:58:15 · update #1
GET OVER IT BOO! He isnt going anywhere. What makes u think he'll leave his home for u?
2006-08-09 05:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by lez_fem69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's leading you on, hun. Sorry to say this, but if he truly loved you do you think for one moment that he would still be living with his girlfriend? You sound young and inexperienced and he is using that to his full advantage.
The ultimate test:
Give him an ultimatum. Tell him that you can't see him anymore until he separates from his girlfriend and moves out.
I can all but guarantee that he will give you a sob story and once he sees that you are not bending, you'll never hear from him again.
Turn your focus to bigger & better things and find a man that can love you and respect you as you should be.
Lastly, try if you will, to put yourself in his girlfriend's shoes and imagine how you would feel if this were being done to you.
If he cheated on her, he will most surely cheat on you as well.
I hope this helps.
2006-08-09 05:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by ·!¦[·ÐarrÁ·]¦!· 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is using you. If he really loved you, he would be with you. It's hard to love someone and not have that love returned, but seven years is a long time to be with someone. You need to back off and let him be. If he really loves you, he will notice that you aren't around and will make the effort to find you. It's best to leave a relationship alone and not try to break it up. There is someone else out there for you. You need to find your next love and leave this man to his family.
2006-08-09 05:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by odd duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the same old story. Let me guess, he claims his girlfriend is a b*tch, right? Or she's psycho and she'll go ballistic and hurt or kill him if he leaves her? Or they have kids togetether and he's afraid she'll keep the kids if he leaves her? I bet he has some excuse, and you are dumb for buying it. Men have been doing this since time began, they have their nice little wifey/girlfriend at home, then one on the side that feeds his ego and gives him sex whenever he wants. I'm not sure how old you are, but you are wasting precious time on this guy. It's going to hurt, but you have to make a clean break and next time find a guy who is not already attached to somebody. Good Luck.
2006-08-09 05:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be unfair on your part, to intrude in this couple's life, what do you say ? suppose you were that girl, and another woman tried to flirt with your boyfriend, would you tolerate it ?
it's wrong on that guy's part, to tell you , he loves you. that's double-cross ! i am not saying it's impossible to fall in love with some one, who is already booked, bu 7 years is a prety long period. they are as good as husband and wife. how did you happen to encounter this fellow ? was it before, or after knowing that he is with some one ?
you will have to divert your focus from liking him so much, to just being friendly may be, that too, with that girl's knowledge, and in her presence. any efforts on establishing secret affair, would break his relationship with that hapless woman, who is ignorant at present, but can find out in due course. so talk to this guy, does he want to break away from the present one, or have the cake, and eat it too ? if he is not married, he may put an end to that relation, but remember, what will happen to her, can happen to you also, in future ? evaluate your exact nature of feelings, and then only go ahead. if sex is the only interest, let it be that way, a casual relationship, don't disrespect the word love atleast !
2006-08-09 05:39:51 · answer #5 · answered by palador 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOLD UP...
YOU DO NOT HAVE A GUY...
a GUY has you...and a live-in girl friend of seven years, he is PLAYING YOU and there is NO LOVE in that at all...MOST,men will say anything to get into pants...MOST MEN...and he is one of them...
MOVE on or you will not only hurt yourself but you are going to wind up hurting that Innocent girl too!
You know about her she does not know about YOU!
Before you do, move on, I would tell her...she has a crooked man...
Call her up or mail her a note tell her you are sorry but you wanted her to know what a BUM she has...
MOVE ON...
Remove the KARMA that will sooner or later come on to you and your life and ruin you...
MAKE a wrong a right...
MOVE ON!
After all wouldn't you want to know IF you had a MAN and he was cheating on you?
If a man, OR ANY PERSON,cheats on one, he is in a SELF HATE behavior and he will continue to do this...
MOVE ON!!!!!
2006-08-09 05:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Samuella SilverSelene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he would be with you, not her. He's a player. Since he didn't tell you about her from the beginning he was being deceitful to get what he wants from you. That should tell you something about his character. Forget him and find a guy who is available in every way. I would advise the other girl to do the same. Do you really want to be with such a big liar? Please don't waste your life on such a loser. Time is precious so use it wisely.
2006-08-09 06:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find a man of your own and stop being a homewrecker! If he does it to her then he'll do it to you. I'm sure your not the first girl hes cheated on her with either and he's obviously not leaving her. Get over it.
2006-08-09 08:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by volcomgrly23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dearest lilly....you must grow up and leave this guy alone...it was not meant to be...he's been with her for 7 yrs...so it's not likely he will leave her for you.....and even if he did it would not work because you would always wonder if he is telling someone the same thing he was telling you... don't have anything to do with these people and find a guy that deserves you and puts you on a pedestal ...have some respect for yourself......
2006-08-09 05:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by bayfrog5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's made a home with this other girl - this pretty much means that he's going to be with her - he should stop telling you he loves you because it sounds like he's leading you on
I know it hurts but you've got to do your best to just let go of him
2006-08-09 05:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by Angelina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be a bit more infactuated than in love. . If you see they are good for each other...leave it alone. You always will want what you dont have.....so get yourself out there and don't mess up their relationship by accidentally making it obvious you love him. After all...you know he loves her since he is living with her. There are plewnty of gorgeous men out there...just let yourself see them.
2006-08-09 05:24:09 · answer #11 · answered by sweets 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋