We are both mature (45 and 38), good looking, professionals (Dr. and lawyer). We saw each other in an office setting weekly for 30 minutes ea. The whole time we were together (talking & pauses) we maintained intense, deep eye contact. He always offered his hand to help me up-we held longer than necessary. We didn't flirt(not the types & not professional)except 1 time when talking about chiropractic I innocently asked him "who does you" and he gave me bedroom eyes and said "I have friends we get together & do each other." We were alone once & I let him know I was interested & he nearly had a heart attack-doubed over-couldn't breath. I asked if he was ok and he said "you're making my stomach flip-flop." I said "good sign for me" and he said "I know." I said "nothing happened." He said "it wouldn't take much." We don't see ea. other anymore-7 mos. If I go see him alone. Will those feelings be stirred? Would something happen if I want it to?? What was he feeling/thinking?
2006-08-09 05:15:03 · 21 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, he was my doctor. We did have friendly conversations. He helped me through alot of emotional stuff with my young boys, who he also treated. We were friends and pretended there was nothing more because of the obvious. Yes, of course we're both married with children. The time we were alone was a lunch date in my car at the park. He knew what I wanted and after a wk. to decide he went with me. My H started calling. Doc thought my H knew what was up & that was it--too much to lose--he told his wife--or his sis who works for him did. Recently, we waved when we passed in cars. I could go see him alone after hours anytime. I have a book to return & could use other excuses. I don't care about my pride. I'm in love. I just want to know if I could have him--even once. What would happen? Would he kick me out or throw me on the table or something in between? No lectures please--I know! I'm a divorce attorney.
2006-08-09 06:08:42 · update #1
I'd be dropping by his office if I were you.
2006-08-09 05:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys had some serious sparks flying I think that it was an attraction and interest BUT why the heck didn't you guys act on it after 7 months things could have changed for the good doc but if you see him again maybe the spark will still be there if he isn't hooked up with someone but maybe he was jest flirting with you because myself if I were available and interested and a nice gal tells me she is interested I am going to ask her out so he may have jest been flirting with you and that could be why he didn't pursue the relationship if that is the case then thank goodness he jest flirted and didnt act because that wouldnt be right
2006-08-09 05:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by delmonticoman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing quite like overstating the obvious, is it? There's so much attraction there Stevie Wonder could see it in exacting detail. As for what happens now, it's largely up to the two of you and how well you manage those "nerves" that seem to be plauging you. Hopefully you won't allow an opportunity to pass unexplored. 45 isn't old, but we're aware of the passage of time, so don't waste it. Go see what's up.
2006-08-09 05:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he married? Why did you both stop? If he is not married, make the first move. Go see him and give him a night he won't forget. I am 44 male professional. My philosophy is cut through the bull and just do it. If he doesn't want to see you after that, enjoy what you had and go find the next one. It will be hard, but just enjoy your life and go for what you want. I know women need an emotional connection before being inimate, but sometimes you just have to say what the heck. Get naked and go for it. Good luck.
2006-08-09 05:23:48 · answer #4 · answered by TK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can not tell you what your intended was thinking or feeling. I don't him or of him. But he could have just been polite and making a shrivels gesture. He could have felt an attraction toward you and perused them until he felt that you weren't reciprocating those feelings or advancements. Who knows what is going on in the mind of Don Quixote.
If you are still feeling attracted to him and still wondering what he is or how he is doing, or just want to speak to him and hear his voice. Then I would say that he means something to you and I think that you should go to him and go out for a pint or a cup of tea.
2006-08-09 05:31:20 · answer #5 · answered by Russell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People flicker in and out of your lives all the time, first of all.
And I think you're taking this too seriously. It's odd that the attraction didn't leave much room for friendly conversation, or even an invitation to eat out. You're not dating, so it's professional. You're simply befriending each other.
I think you probably took it too seriously.
From your perspective, I'd say you were infatuated, which isn't love as much as interest and sexual attraction.
And from his perspective, it wasn't love either, but probably interest and slight hints of sexual attraction.
Good luck.
2006-08-09 05:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mario E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be direct ask him out for coffee, lunch something casual. Your doctor was definitely flirting, but may be committed to someone or married.
When you ask him out for coffee or lunch and he refuses be more assertive and say that you felt there was an attraction between the both of you and wanted to get to know him better.
You have nothing to lose except a little heartbreak and much to gain.
Good luck.
2006-08-09 05:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't consider joking about orgies flirting or particularly professional... If he wanted anything to happen, it would have happened after you told him you were interested. Nothing has happened, he's clearly enjoying the attention but not reciprocating.
I'm sure the feelings will be stirred in you, but since he hasn't made any effort to contact you in 7 months, I doubt your sudden reappearance will leave you any better off than you were before - hopelessly attached to a man who hasn't made any effort to be with you. Sorry :(
2006-08-09 05:26:21 · answer #8 · answered by m&m_manic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised that someone of your maturity has to ask in this forum...
Of course he's interested! Of course he's attracted! If you think he's in love after so few meetings and little to no actual dating or courtship, that would explain why you're both still single.
Expect fireworks the next time you meet; if he's so dense that he doesn't ask you out by then, you better club him on the head yourself!
Good luck
2006-08-09 05:21:44 · answer #9 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were both definitely interested & flirting, but nothing came of it. So I have to assume that the other person is married! You were just a passing fancy and thankfully nothing happened.
2006-08-09 05:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just don't get it, he may like you, but he doesn't know how to express himself, you have to decide how much this guy attracts you and if you are willing to take a more proactive roll, if that is the case, go ahead full speed
2006-08-09 05:23:28 · answer #11 · answered by elcabula2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋