2006-08-09 05:10:47 · 5 answers · asked by malcolmg 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
jennifercaluori, do you ever feel you would like to feel the joy of true friendship?
2006-08-09 05:41:54 · update #1
It sounds as though you know what i mean sasmallworld, I hope you have better luck with Friends in the future. My friends started off like that but when i tried to be a bit more choosey things improved.
2006-08-09 05:49:02 · update #2
bikerchickjill, Lila, I wish I had done the same at the time my friend was like that.
2006-08-10 00:16:55 · update #3
yes..i used to be really shy and self conscious, and didnt' know how to stand up for myself. even now, it's so hard for me to truly criticize someone; giving advice if they ask is one thing, but telling them straight out that they are bad, etc, is hard for me. because i CARE about their feelings! but when u think about it, does that person really care about ur feelings?? =T most likely not, cuz if they DID, they wouldn't be nasty! it's all very logical. which is why, my policy now, is to try to maintain and grow my relationships with good people, and stay acquaintances or distant to people who are not. and u know what's so funny? when u actually try to give them a chance to explain themselves, they have nothing to say! because they had bad intentions, they can't make anything but excuses. therefore, if u call em on it, they get angry, mad and try to turn it around. i recently had a "friend" who totally acted selfishly and ruined a lot of things, including my respect for her. and when i asked her to explain, she just didn't want to. and when i distanced myself, she got mad at ME and wrote me a hate mail saying "i never want to see or talk to u again. good bye". and i was at first So angry..then i realized, i gave her a chance and she blew it. and she didn't even try to work it out w/ me, she just wrote me a hate mail like that! i had stopped myself from writing truly mean things to her, and she had absolutely no respect for me to do the same. therefore, she is not worthy being a martyr for; i'd rather be a martry for someone who is a good friend. u know why? cuz a good friend would never purposely try to make u a martry. they would do their best to take care of u too, just as u are doing for them.
2006-08-09 05:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have a similar story to sas. The important thing is that I finally found my backbone and, to be honest, I am relieved that those people (there were a couple) are not in my life anymore.
The experience taught me the hard lesson of knowing when to speak up or shut up to a friend when that friend says/does something nasty to me.
2006-08-09 13:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by bikerchickjill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i have. but i faced my friend and pretty much gave her the third degree,asking,why this and why that.after wards, i tried to understand how she felt,cause she was nasty in her hurt. but there were a couple of people who didnt change,and i did my best to ignore them.
2006-08-09 13:47:45 · answer #3 · answered by Muse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i AM the nasty friend
2006-08-09 12:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Jenster*is*flipping*you*off 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Isn't a martyr someone who dies.....? so, no.
2006-08-09 12:20:55 · answer #5 · answered by Lindsay M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋