My friend really pissed me off and l told him l'll never speak to him again. But l really miss him. I don't wanna say l'm sorry cause he is the one that hurt me. How can this situation be solved?
2006-08-09 04:56:48 · 29 answers · asked by irena 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be the first to patch it up, even if you miss him. But once he apologises or even makes an attempt, be gentle and behave dignified. Don't express your weakness.
2006-08-09 05:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by Lotus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that u need to talk to him. find some quite time. tell him why u were pissed off and why u felt so hurt. each person has her/his own value system and u have to communicate ur feelings, for them to realise how u felt about the whole thing. sometimes they may be totally unable to realise what went wrong. when u renew the friendhip, take it very slowly so that u dont get hurt again. u can gradually regain the old level of intimacy if all goes well. if not find someone more understanding.may be is not good friend material. that's life.
2006-08-09 05:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by ash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's go over this...He angered you and you told him and said you would not speak to him again. Now you miss him and want him back" That is known as masochistic. Why should you apologize? He hurt you. You need to know yourself better...and learn why you let people hurt you. Else, you will suffer a lifetime of hurt. Get a grip, set boundries and realize that sometimes you just can't fix things and it is best you get away from them. People who hurt other people are sadistic. (Have you ever watch Jerry Springer show?)Learn about what these terms mean. It will be good for you. Some people never learn. Don't be one of them. Good luck.
2006-08-09 05:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him that you regret the fight, but he hurt you deeply. You miss him so tell him. You feel sorry that you said such horrible things, but you were upset. Talk to him about what he said or did that made you so mad. Maybe he's rethought his actions by now.
If he's a good friend, then he'll apologize to you, too. He might miss you and the friendship as much as you miss him.
2006-08-09 05:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and tell him that you're sorry for acting the way you did not for the way he made you feel. Tell him how you feel. Have a conversation with him not an arguement. True friends are hard to come by and they should be treasured. Good Luck.
2006-08-09 05:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by taz4x4512 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's really Ur friend, GET OVER IT...
Friends are few and far between, so if U have a good one, just let it go...
Make sure that the crime fits the punishment. In other words if it wasnt unforgivable Forgive him and Move On...
2006-08-09 05:02:00 · answer #6 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... Give it a month or so, and see if he talks to you... i fhe chooses not to... then I would call him up and ask to talk to him once the situation is cooled down...
There is not easy way to solve this situation... but saying that you will never talk to the guy again is allways a bad idea, even in anger.
2006-08-09 05:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Rob D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done this before with my best guy friend roy.... Just call him up and pretend nothing happened... Good friends say stupid crap all the time.... & understand that it was stupid, but dont INSIST on an apology. If its offered, great... If not... I wouldnt worry too much about it. Obviously you've forgiven him on some level.
2006-08-09 05:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you are 22 years old. i would take the upper hand and call him i would say something like this.........
"john, i am sorry for flying off the handle a bit when i told you never to speak to me again, but you really hurt me when you......................................."
i understand that you were the one that was hurt here, but how can he apologize if you told him never to speak to you again?
go now, and call him, he probably misses you too.
2006-08-09 15:13:46 · answer #9 · answered by rabika97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say it let him what i would do is let him know the reason why your pissed off at him and that it really hurt your feelings see what he says if he tells you sorry go to the next step if not then no-matter how you feel about him your going to have to let him go because he doesn't deserve you or your feelings
2006-08-09 05:08:07 · answer #10 · answered by reddevil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋