I just started dating a guy with a huge female body builder fetish. He mentioned on one of our first dates, that he's into women bodybuilders, and would actually stay home from school as a child to watch the women's bodybuilding championships. Now that we've become exclusive, He's mentioned to me that he would like to see me with more of a muscular build. I happen to think women bodybuilders look too much like men, and I'd like to maintain my feminine body. Should I attempt to add a "little" bit of muscle to my shape and make him happy? Or should I just tell him to hit the road cuz I'm not changing?
Confused
2006-08-09 04:41:44 · 9 answers · asked by daniellem230 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I LOVE CHICKS WITH MUSCLES TOO, NOT THE PRO LEVEL
ONES, THEY'RE MOSTLY ON STEROIDS, BUT A NICE LITTLE BICEP OR TRICEP IS WAY HOT. Also where ever there's muscle legs there's a banging booty. If you do it ,do it for you, not him. If you do and it doesn't work out... Holla !
2006-08-09 04:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by brianlefttoe 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You haven't had an answer in many years, but I'd be interested in how you resolved your issue. I have a muscle fetish myself, so I have a bias, but I would say there's nothing really abnormal there. It's funny that everyone is telling you that he has to accept you as you are, when you're question is really whether you should accept him as he is.It's not as if he can't be in a relationship with a woman who isn't packing on muscle. He's just being candid about what excites him the most, especially when he's coming up with masturbatory fantasies. I don't blame him for hoping he could merge his fantasies with real life eroticism, but it doesn't mean that you and he couldn't have a rich sexual life without that being part of it. Just know that he will still have these fantasies. We've all got our things, right? I'm not Brad Pitt. Does that mean I can't date someone who fantasizes about him?
2014-11-05 06:00:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Female bodybuilders are very exotic creatures. They need to be paid for. Do you make lots and lots of money? If not, why do you and why does your therapist think a female body builder is going to be interested in you? You're on "OCD drugs" which enrich the drug industry but they aren't doing you any good. You're paying for "psycho therapy" which is great for your therapist, but your therapist is obviously clueless. This is a great illustration of what is wrong with health care in America today, and it's an especially good illustration of what is wrong with the notion of having the taxpayers foot the bill for this colossal foolishness. In my opinion, you should walk away from your "therapy" altogether, and then face the fact that if you simply want to get laid, your problem is easily solved. You simply pay a bodybuilder to sleep with you. But if you want a real relationship, then stop focusing on your fetish and your expectations and your needs, and start focusing on what your partner is all about. Which might cause someone to be genuinely interested in you. Which I think you may find is all you really need.
2016-03-27 05:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be Thankful some body likes the muscle you have. Working out a little wouldn't hurt any of us provided we do it in a safe and sane way. He'll probably run off before you get buff as this takes a long time. Just take a look at Jessica Beil. There is a feminine looking buff gal.
2006-08-09 05:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by billwassmus 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes its ok. If you want to put on a little muscle, do it. But do i for yourself, not him. Think of it this way - If it still does not work out between the two of you, you will be left with a sexier more attractive figure...check out Rob Sim's Fitness Beauties website to get an idea..
2006-08-11 23:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by Femuscle_lover 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't change just for him...because if you give a little, chances are he is going to know that you are willing to gain muscle and will try to get you to gain even more! forget that. If he can't accept you how you are, say bye! lol
2006-08-09 04:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by shortee807 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to run for governor of caulifornia I would say you should tell him to go hang out at the gym and then quickly move on with your life.
2006-08-09 04:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you should be with someone who accepts you the way you are.
You shouldn't change for no one. If he can't accept your body the way it is then you should move on to someone who will.
2006-08-09 04:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by raindrop_33 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is your very own decission. if you change your body it should be for you, not for please anybody. Talk with him and ask if he loves you and accept you as you are or if he just likes your body.
2006-08-09 05:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by mfacio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋