He hit his head on a tree and caused it to bleed. I have spent time with him one on one thinking that he may be feeling left out. It has not worked yet.
2006-08-09 04:30:47 · 19 answers · asked by worried_mommy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
well before u get all work up, and go running to the doctors for help, ( like certain people have mentioned) Play a mind game. I have 3 kids 8, 5 & 3. They all did their little i'm mad so I'm going to do this to me routine, and what I would do, I would say OK let me when u r done and walk away. dont say nothing else, once the child knows that it worries u is more of a lets see how far mommy will go this time. Instead u should just let your child do what he or she is doing. I mean unless they are not using a weapon to hurt them self. My favorite line I used it on my son, they are more hard headed so I would say to him, "oh i missed that how u did that?" he would look at me like WHAT and turn around and continue playing like nothing happen. Kids are very amazing. like my mother used to say "IF THEY ARE NOT CRYING BLOOD TEARS THEN THEY ARE FINE" LOL
good luck.
If this dont help or the problem continues to get worse then maybe you should ask your doctor what to do next. maybe your child went through some emotional stress, anything from parents separation to something silly as loosing a toy, always remember that these kids are human too and they really dont know how to express themself as an adult can. so just keep being a good mom and keep your eyes open.
also pay atttention to the time of day he does this, on what days he does this and who is around him when he does this. anyone from a playmate to an adult keep ur eyes wide open.
again good luck
2006-08-09 04:45:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little girl threw fits when she was 2 years old. She had learned to climb out of her crib and would beat on the door and throw her self on the ground when I tried to comfort her. Then she started doing it all the time. Sometimes I did not even know why. I finally stopped comforting and started time out, which could be worse with her banging her head on the wall and kicking with her bare toes. Knocking the chair over and hitting the wall with her hands. I then tried Butt popping, but it just me her and me both more angry.
Last resort put her in her room, shut the door, and walk away, if she came out, I replaced her without a word, shut the door and walked away. She would usually stay, laying in the floor kicking the door until she finally tired out at which I would enter her room, calmly bend down and held my hand out to help her up. She would let me, drape herself over my shoulder for a hug, then lie down, and take a nap.
Towards the age of three, she was throwing a real good one because she did not want to mind me and stop doing something (I do not remember what) so I told her to go to her room and not to come out until she stopped acting like that. I had to put her in there, but when I shut the door, it stayed shut. I heard screaming and things hitting the wall (toys) I could tell she was on the bed and I really was afraid she would get hurt, but I kept my sit. A few minutes later, she calmed down and I heard the door open and her gasping to stop her crying. She said mommy I am done can I come out here now? I did not let up, I asked her if she was going to mind mommy and be sweet and she put her arms around me and said I am sorry, I'll be sweet. I will never forget that.
This still happened from time to time, when she was five she threw her self in the floor of Big Lots and screamed bloody murder, you are hurting me, my legs are hurting, I don't want to leave! I want that! You are hurting my arm, then grabbed her knee, and again fell to the floor. She fell asleep on the way home; thank God no one really thought I was abusing her. I did not take her with me in a store for a long time. My mother even got to where she would not take her anywhere.
From that experience and more, I think while kids need love and attention, they also have to be "cut off" at times. You must remain calm. Try not to show any emotion, anger, over concern, heartache...when all is calm ask him what happen, why he got mad at mommy (or who ever he rages against). Do not make him talk but sort of in a 3 year old way, have a serious conversation. If he refuses, back off and let him be alone for a while longer. He will probably come to you when he is ready as long as he knows you want to talk and want to let him talk.
2006-08-09 05:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by ozkat78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just let him do it, don't feel sorry for him when he gets hurt. Act like nothing is going on, he is doing to get a response out of you. The first time my son did that it was on the sidewalk. He might have hurt himself but no visits to the ER. It took some time but he grew out of it. Now he is eight and a very nice calm young man. Good luck
2006-08-09 14:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by hrfryman2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 year olds cant understand alot and they can not consentrate for very long at all, talkin to him will not help alot, maybe a few words about the situation but not a whole spech, first you need to find out why he has his tantrums maybe because hes tired, hungry or hot and flusterd and try you most to resolve this situation, also a sutible amont of disipline helps and remeber when you disapline a child stick to your word. GOOD LUCK x
2006-08-09 04:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by cutiebroods 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may sound cruel, but when he does hit his head, unless he cracks his skull open and needs stiches, ignore him. He will learn that he does not like the pain. My son is 2 and has started to throw himself on the floor and he doesn't do it for a while if he hits his head on soemthing hard, like the leg of his crib.
2006-08-09 04:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to channell his anger to somthing safe, like hitting a pillow. Most of the time when a 3 year old gets that angry, its because he is not being understood. Try and help him verbalize what is making him mad, then validate his anger...tell him you understand why hes angry, and problem solve with him, asking what would help make things better. Sometimes just making you undersatnd whats bothering him will dispell his anger.
2006-08-09 04:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by jmmcakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be a phase but I would be firm with him. Make him realize that this isn't acceptable behavior. Also make sure there are negative consequences when he ignores your warnings. I find the "naughty chair" works for my 2 year old (She will be 3 on 11/10).
2006-08-09 05:01:10 · answer #7 · answered by jimel71898 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was his age up on till the age of 8 i had a bad temper also, even multiple personalities; Well my grand mother beat the hell out of me, those personalities took off and left me behind, now i know the errors of my ways.
"without abusing" teach your sun the error of his way, or America penal system will.
2006-08-09 04:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by COOL G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just being a three year old. I have the same problem with mine having a bad temper. If you think its a real problem contact your pediatrician for help.
2006-08-09 04:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by annie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm.. maybe he's a spoiled brat?? Try to discipline him by bringing him to some to the poorest country on earth.. live there for a month, let him be surrounded by unfortunate children, who’s dying everyday in starvation and with disease.. in that way, he will value things in life more.
2006-08-09 04:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by yacekiih 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋