I've been friends with this girl for two years now. She had a boyfriend for the longest time. She knows I'm interested in her and have been since we first met. About 6 months ago she broke up with her boyfriend of nine years. Since then, I've been giving her a lot of space (not wanting to be rebound guy), but have always made her aware that I'm here IF she wants to talk etc.
A few months ago she invited me over to her mother's house to meet her mother and her best friend. I clicked very well with both the mother and the best friend.
She wants to see me again later this month, but she's asked if she could meet my best friend (a guy I've told her lots about).. My question: Ladies, why would you want to meet a guy's best friend? Is there an underlying motive/reason for this and if so what is it? I.E. Is this something that could highly influence my possibilities of a relationship with her?
My apologies, understand I'm very new to the dating game. Guys, any similar experiences?
2006-08-09 04:25:02 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She may just simply want to meet the person who is closest to you and maybe her intent may just be that you a a very good friend. However reading in between the lines I think she wanted you to introduce you to the family to put a face with a name as she probably speaks very highly of you because she may like you. In this case she probably has taken their advice on their stamp of approval and wants to meet your best friend in the hopes of now that she's free she has to state her claim on you but.......................as you know most woman don't make the first gesture so I would ask her if I were you if she was interested in dating and if not I would keep my distance! At this point you're a platonic friend in a glass that's label brake just in case of emergency!
2006-08-09 04:36:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What? You lost me there...
Anyway, dude, you want a girl, get a girl.
Being loco over a girl and asking on the internet what to do is just about as useful as plucking feathers from a chickens butt.
Stop thinking about secondary - underlying motives - (what a fool). Possibilities, motives, are just that - possibilities and motives.
I could guess your age, 14 - 18, you still have freckles, pimples, its possible that you are wearing eye glasses, I'm definitely sure that you have NO self confidence, you probably stay hours and hours in front of your computer,
DUDE CHILL OUT. Breathe some outdoor air. Meet many people girls and guys, old and young, rich and poor, educated and dumb. You wouldn't find any answers here coz
This aint real life.
Believe me. I know.
2006-08-09 04:33:10 · answer #2 · answered by digileet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one reason that I would want to meet a guy's best friend would be to see how he influences the guy I am interested in. Guys tend to be somewhat like their friends, which is why they get along. Don't get me wrong, guys are not the spitting images of their friends, but it helps a girl to get a vibe about the guy she is interested in. And because she is interested in meeting your friends, it is possible that she is interested in you as more than a friend. She wants to know about your friends, what makes you tick. It is a good sign. Let her meet your friend, and see where things go from there.
2006-08-09 04:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy friend of yours in important in your life and you speak of him all the time why wouldnt she want to meet him...its nothing wrong with her wanting to meet him, the question is why does it raise a question to you that she wants to. This sounds like a seperate issue than from what you spoke of her past relationship and family, your suspicion of her sounds like trust issues, do you think you might be feeling insecure that all the things you spoke about your friend she is interested in him instead of you? Only you would know if she is worthy of meeting your friend, and her motives..if you dont want her to than your just not ready or maybe she isnt that much for you afterall.
2006-08-09 04:34:26 · answer #4 · answered by brite star 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For most girls getting to know the guy that they are interested in ,friends is just a way of getting to know you better and to be introduced to your friends is a complement for the girl-like seeing if you have alot of girls meet your friends,also how you interact with them this is my assumption but she could be looking for some one else,she may think of you as just a friend-us women are a complicated breed
2006-08-09 04:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's some advice.TELL HER HOW YOU REALLY FEAL ABOUT HER.You are drifting into the friend zone.You might already be a prisoner in the zone, but she still thinks one day she can have a relationship with you.My personal belief is she can give 2 sh*ts about you friend.It is like reverse psycology to get you to make a move on her.You were already introduced to her mother.She would not be hanging out with you if she did not admire(take it how you want) you.Let alone, invite you to her house to have dinner with her and her mother.TELL HER HOW YOU REALLY FEAL ABOUT HER.MAKE YOUR MOVE.Before it is too late and you regret it.Happens to all of us.
2006-08-09 04:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by Mitchell B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just want to innocently meet him, but then again, she might want to see if he's hot or not. Depending on the things you have told her about him, you should be able to desifer weather she seems interested in him or just wants to meet him in order to get closer to you. Be open and honest with her. If she keeps bringing him up in conversation, ask her why she wants to meet him so bad.
Good luck with everthing
2006-08-09 04:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by jso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that she's just curious since you've mentioned him, or...
Motive #1: if you bring her to meet your friend, that means she means something to you and you're proud to show her off...
Motive #2: to see if he's the kind of friend that'll get you into trouble when she's not around.
2006-08-09 04:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key thing in your question was how he is "a guy you have told her lots about". Unfortunately, I think you may have made her feel that you are trying to hook him up with her or that she may be good for him and you are not interested in her. Either way, you are in the friend zone buddy so express your feelings for her and see how she reacts or watch her get cozy with your friend once she meets him...
2006-08-09 04:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by SNAX786 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say she probably wants to see what kind of friends you have or wants to see if she gets along with him. Obviously her best friend is very important to her and she probably just wants to make sure you all get along. They also say if you want to know about someone look at their friends, so it could be that as well. I would say dont worry about it too much. Its all good.
2006-08-09 04:30:18 · answer #10 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋