I really care about him but he doesnt turn me on at all.
2006-08-09 04:17:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His size and performance is not good at all. In every other area, he's great. But if we were to marry I dont think I could handle it.
2006-08-09 04:37:20 · update #1
Yes. Maybe try talking to him seriously about what you feel is lacking. Is it his looks, the way he acts, his performance in bed...
There are many types of relationships you can have with someone, and it doesn't have to be a romantic one. If you care about him, try to be sensitive to him when you discuss your relationship. If you don't then get on with your life without him in it.
If you are married or engaged, and the spark has gone out, try counseling before you consider a divorce or separating. You can't expect passion to flare forever. Sometimes a low steady burn is more reliable.
Think about what you want out of this relationship. How can you contribute to make things better? What can he do to satisfy you? Maybe adding a little spice from outside sources. Not another partner, but visit your local adult boutique. They have a wide selection of toys, lingerie, movies, games, and other things you could add to keep things interesting.
He's not a mind reader. Don't expect him to know that you aren't satisfied without you telling him. Talking is the best way to resolve your problems. He may feel just as happy as you and be open to some changes.
2006-08-09 04:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well... then if there is no sexual feelings or attraction.. then is it safe to say its "platonic"? and do we all know if something is platonic then isn't that a non-sexual interest... if we take this further... are we not sexually interested in friends? you draw the lines and make the decision for yourself. But i know if i was in the situation, i'd be in a friendship rather than a romantic relationship. I feel that there's no point in being involved with somebody if you're not sexually attracted to that person. The only difference between friends and lovers is sex and commitment.
2006-08-09 11:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by classy_gui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a reality and you can never deny it. You may feel yourself ,at this point, that you can spend the whole life with this guy but as the time passes by your priorities will definitely change. You did not mention whether he does not turns you on deliberately or he is not kind of a man who does not care for their woman's feeling and just drag her to the bed. If it is so then you can tell him politely to respect your feelings too and let you enjoy it too.
2006-08-09 11:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by dua 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you will find yourself looking around, and eventually start cheating. Perhaps both of you can go to an adult store and find something that will help things as far as sex goes. I know I couldn't deal with. I mean if we were together for years and he suddenly suffered from impotence then I could deal with that, but not in the beginning of the relationship. We have needs too that have to be met!
2006-08-09 11:22:35 · answer #4 · answered by rockwithelmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then it's a friendship and not a romantic situation. Be straight up and say something. It'll be a short term pain and a long term gain even if blows up the relationship. You'll be a better person for haven done so.
2006-08-09 11:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by Add Man 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it his physic that doesn't turn you on or has it been that you have been with him a long time and your kind of getting a bit bored with him? But sweetie you can't stay with someone just b/c you love them and are not pleased, try talking to him tell him new things to try with you ad see what you like the most...sex is a big factor I wish you the best of luck and try new things maybe thats it!!!
2006-08-09 11:22:14 · answer #6 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each time this happens to me, I lose interest because of course, I feel like something is lacking within the relationship- and we find out that we are better off as friends.
2006-08-09 11:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by rantfactory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally..No,I could not.....Sex is not the most important part of a relationship but..if you arent sexually satisfied,then the rest of it goes to shi* too.Because you will get the satisfaction you need no matter how much you love the one you are with.Then in comes ..LIES,Deceit,Games....Too much ,ya know? Good Luck ,Hun.
2006-08-09 11:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by mrssmokestack003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he satisfies you in every other way (gentle, loving, respectful, etc...) and you don't think sex will become an issue in the future, then yes.
Maybe you could help him work on that? Be honest with him.
2006-08-09 11:23:02 · answer #9 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i tryed as i loved her but god she was way 2 thin and i would ask her 2 put weight on but she was 2 woried wt ppl think.. and i tryed 2 get used 2 it but after 11 mounths wid **** sex.. i ended up brakin it off 2 b wid anouther gal...
lesson of the story not ussauly and the more u try the more heart brake when u finnialy brake up... unless he changes...
2006-08-09 11:23:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋