2006-08-09 04:10:47 · 17 answers · asked by blondie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most men do that stuff in the beginning and then stop after a certain ammount of time has passed... Its because they have won you, so why bother with the compliments. Its stupid & usually if you tell your spouse/sig other that you like to hear those things, they will do it for you. I know mine does. Good luck.
2006-08-09 04:15:05 · answer #1 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called complacency. We're just too involved with work and life to give much thought to the sig. other. Or just don't feel comfortable with those mushy words and feelings. Either way, it's really inexcusable. Taking things for granted can grow and fester into hard feelings and suspicions and turmoil that leads to worse things. On the other hand, a guy likes to think his hard efforts at work all day are appreciated, too. So, it works both ways but women are just more sensitive and in tune with those kinds of feelings. It doesn't mean they don't love you. I can tell you this, they DO NOT like to be constantly forced to say the words the woman wants to hear. The words start becoming a pain in the neck rather than the true compliment the woman needs to hear. It's like a recording if you have to drag it out of them.
Doesn't make it right, just the way it is. I think it's O.K. to tell a guy once in awhile that he's alittle lax in showing his true appreciation but to harp on it all the time saying " I Love You....." and then waiting for a response of the same is nerve racking. At least is was for me. Maybe the true love wasn't there. It sure wasn't when it was pried out of me like an absessed tooth.
2006-08-09 11:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by Gregg J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe because it doesn't feel right for some guys. If they grew up in a family environment which wasn't very close, or if they have friends who say that sort of thing is uncool. A lot of factors influence what a guy might say, but it is not a given that if he doesn't say it then he obviously doesn't think it. I would say a guy that tells his girl that he thinks she's beautiful maybe twice a year, means it a hell of a lot more than the guy who says it all the time. Also, guys like to get compliments back!
2006-08-09 11:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just not their way. Men and women are driven by different forces. The sooner you accept this, the happier you will be in your relationships. Men show affection in other ways than do women. If you want compliments and to hear "I love you" more often...ask for it. A man works better on command than to just be expected to know what to do.
2006-08-09 11:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by green is clean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to sound mean but we don't compliment you because we're honest by nature. We're better at charming you when we're playing the game and courting you because there's more on the line but once we're with you we're not going to tell you we love you unless you inspire that emotion in us and we're not going to tell you that your shoes are lovely unless they appeal to our sense of aesthetics Men wouldn't want a compliment that's not honest so we don't give them insincerely. It's not lost on us that ego reinforcement is important to your self-esteem just as I'm sure you're aware that your lewd sexual acts are important to our self-esteem, but just as you want to be inspired to make us feel better we want to be inspired to make you feel better.
If you want your man to notice you did something with your hair, consult him on how he thinks it would look best before you change it. If you'd like him to tell you how smart you are impress him by learning more about his interests than he knows. If you'd like to be told you're beautiful, take off all of your clothing and behave seductively. Be the compliment!
2006-08-09 11:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are with the wrong guys. I told my girlfriend I loved her several times every day. I also would compliment her every single day.
2006-08-09 11:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by ABN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some men seem to just not know what they really want. They have alot of other things on there minds then us women alot of the time it seems like that.
2006-08-09 11:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by Christy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are just words, and they can be meaningless.
Would you rather have a man who says "I love you" but rarely shows you any act of kindness?
Or would you rather have a man who shows his love for you every day in many ways?
2006-08-09 11:15:09 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try and justify any excuse for a man not being sweet to his woman.Some people are simply selfish a ssholes!
2006-08-09 11:15:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically we men are just lazy when it comes to compliments
2006-08-09 11:15:45 · answer #10 · answered by gwaz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋