Like pampered chef, tupperware, etc. when it's someone inviting you that never asks you to do anything else. I don't mind going to these things if it's for someone I do other stuff with but if they never ask me unless I have to buy something it's insulting!!
2006-08-09 04:02:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes. It feels like the person doesn't care about our friendship; she just wants me to buy things from her.
I definitely wouldn't go. I'd just say I have a conflict, which isn't a lie because I would be conflicted about having to attend such a party.
2006-08-09 09:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In high school and college you can keep having friends. Afterwards you keep the friends you have, and make aquaitances at work, etc; and you may go in outings with them once in a while. When you have children, you will make friends again with people whom have children as well: as you'll use the excuse "well we should go do something so the kids can play!"
Besides that there is the party setting; the party setting gives people a reason to dress up or down, and to come over and enjoy a social gathering. There used to be a lot of protocol to how it was done, but now it's been severely watered down in the middle class and lower class of America. Upper class still has them, however.
Mostly when I am invited to a "party" I bring party favors. Either small food (main course provided by the host) or alcohol drinks. I don't expect the person to serve the drink, as I bring my own drink just in case (which I share with everyone that may want one, as I usually drink somethign I consider good and would be more than glad to have someone else enjoy the same.)
If I come to a special ocassion, such as birth, new home, etc; those are expected to parties to bring in help for friends. These are usually only in attendance by those that are related to the issue: ie, a new home would be family of the person. Birth would be family as well. Friends do not usually attend these, unless they are life long friends that have been around for a while, and they may bring something to give to the friend.
So, if someone asks you to attend a special occassion, politely decline and let them know that is best for family to attend. If someone invites you to a party, you may come - but remember that the host only is expected to provide certain things (and they are quiet a few!), while the guests are not expected to provide much: however, independence of the party favors present (imagine they only had cheese chips and you wanted salsa chips, or only had vodka and you wanted scotch...) greatly enhances the party for a person
good luck
2006-08-09 11:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by Solrium 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a friend like this. I would be invited to her house only to attend one of these parties. At the time I was still in college and didn't have a lot of money. She said "Just come, you don't have to buy anything." I tried to tell her I wanted to spend time with her without having to attend a "party."
Well, after a while she stopped inviting me and we never went out. So, I figured that's the kind of friendship we had. Not much of one.
I would think seriously about cutting this "friend" off. You are only good for your pocket book.
2006-08-09 11:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Malika 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on the party. If it's a birthday party, yeah you would notmally have to bring a gift. If it's just a spontaneous one, as far as I know, the most you can do is buy some wine or chocolates or pretzels or bring videos or somehthing like that.
Besides, why would you want to go to a party of people you don't know and who don't mean anything to you? Sort out who's important to you (or who you want to be friends with if not already) and stay away from greedy people!
2006-08-09 12:05:44 · answer #4 · answered by Foxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its beer, than no im not insulted but if its those candle light or tupperware parties i just dont go. saves me the headache of telling a friend NO
2006-08-09 14:08:57 · answer #5 · answered by Wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just don't like these parties then politely decline. If you want to go to the party then go. However, if you don't want to buy anything, then don't. Merchants pay a lot of money every month for renting a retail space. They allow you to come and browze all you want. Why shouldn't this party be any different? It is your money and you worked for it.
2006-08-09 12:40:42 · answer #6 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's insulting when the only time they want to have you is when you will bring a present. It's a clear sign of material interest and not friendship.
2006-08-09 11:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Kookoo Bananas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind if they are straight up about it. I was invited to a woman's house "for coffee", and when I called to say I couldn't make it, she told me that it was going to be selling scrap booking things, and if I wanted any to let her know and she would come and sell me some.
I thought that was really rude!
2006-08-09 11:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by ♪ Nickels ♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't go to them. But yes, it is a bit insulting if that's all they ever invite you over for.
2006-08-09 11:08:12 · answer #9 · answered by PaganPoetess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's manipulative and rude. Kindly decline the invite.
2006-08-10 01:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by mitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋