I dated this guy for 3 years and we lived together for a couple months. I went on vacation with my family for a weekend and came home to find him in bed with another girl. He lied about it after for months. He tried and tried for a long time to get me back. after a year he finally gave up. Now I am actually thinking of taking him back. But I think I may not be happy. Should I try? Do cheaters change? Or does he sound way too creepy?
2006-08-09 03:59:31 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tough question. The reason it's tough is we don't know him. I can say once a cheater not always a cheater. Does the apply to your guy?? Beats me.
I cheated once. It just happened with a family friend. There was no planning, I didn't go out looking for a woman, nor did I try to make it happen, but it did. I got caught and my wife and I are separated. I can tell you that it will never happen again, I can tell you that even though we are separated I still don't date or want another woman other then my wife, but I can't speak for your boyfriend.
I think it may have something to do whether it was a planned affair and whether he went out looking for sex. Any of us can stumble and fall during a moment that is unguarded. I think it's different then when it's pre-planned. Then that might be an issue. I'm not sure the logic works, but it's what's in my heart.
2006-08-09 04:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you found him in bed with another girl, what did he have to lie about??? Had he been sleeping with this girl for months before you caught them? Some cheaters change, but it takes years and years...I wouldn't jump right back into living with him or marrying him, just try casual dating. I don't think I would try again if I truly felt that I would not be happy
2006-08-09 04:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont take him back...thats so awful, you will never get that image out of your head and you will make him constantly pay for it....I dont see you truly ever being able to trust him again, its not worth it, you deserve better than that, he couldnt even be left alone for a weekend! Dont go back he wont change bcuz the reason he cheated has to do with him lacking not you. He needs to figure out why he is so lame before he can be trusted and good for anyone.
2006-08-09 04:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by brite star 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People can always have a change of heart, but you shouldn't trust this person the same as you did before.
2016-03-27 05:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Cheaters are cheaters forever.
2006-08-09 04:03:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. he lied about it for four months!!!
he is not trust worthy if he was truly sorry he would have told you. I think you should find an new guy that will respect you
2006-08-09 04:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience they don't change. They lie to and manipulate all of the people who love them.
2006-08-09 04:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it girl!!!!!!!!! i have never met or heard of a cheater that stopped. especially if they are a "take back".
2006-08-09 04:05:03 · answer #8 · answered by Becky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey just forget about him.its not worth it.no offence but it makes you cheap! so.go for some other nice guys!
2006-08-09 04:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by destinyofangels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater...always a cheater
2006-08-09 04:03:55 · answer #10 · answered by jaxxie1982 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋