last night before i went to bed my b/f said that he wants to go out to eat and talk about us. it scares me becuase i think he might leave but he said if he was leaving then he wouldn't take me out to eat and waste his money. what do you guys think he will talk about? please help me out. i'm scared to go because i don't want to hear the wrong things
2006-08-09 03:47:36 · 20 answers · asked by lover143 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't think its marriage but iof so i don't think i want to cry infront of everyone. i'm going no matter what because i care about what he thinks. we have been together for 2 years but the marriage isn't what we will talk about.
2006-08-09 04:31:15 · update #1
He maybe wanting to open up and reallly let you in. For 1 you know how us guys are, we can a A GF for years and only let her really get in a few times. I do agree that if he was ready to end it with you, yeah why am I taking you out to eat. I'd just show up be like it's over get my stuff or give you your stuff and see ya later.
This sounds like something you should get excited for, I don't think it sounds like a Marrige proposal but it does have promise ring or deeper level of commitment feel to it. Or just the simple fact that he may realize how important your are to him and he can't see himself with out you. I'm already happy for you. I hope he takes you somewhere nice and shows you alot of love aight............peace
2006-08-09 03:56:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends a lot on what's happened before he decided to have this discussion with you. My experience is that people who decide to "have a talk," whether you go to dinner or simply sit on the couch to chat, is to deal with something that's already happened. Did you have a fight recently? Is there something about your actions/behavior that he's been meaning to address with you? Whatever you do, make sure you don't go into the dinner with assumptions about what he will talk to you about.
I know you don't want to hear something hurtful; no one likes that. But it's far better in the long run to know exactly what he's feeling rather than going about your relationship simply guessing at what the other person is thinking. If you work out whatever issue may exist, it's better to resolve it now than wait until later. Hope everything works out for you!
2006-08-09 11:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by NormJunior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't take a girl out to tell her I am leaving her either. I am guessing that if he is taking you out then it is not to hear the wrong things. Maybe he just wants to talk to you about the future and where he wants you in it with him.
2006-08-09 10:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by jlpitt98 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest if he wants to *talk* at a restaurant where he will spend money on you, it might be actually good, like marriage or something. Or he wants to tell you how he feels or something, i think if he wanted to dump you he would have done it, and wouldn't be taking you out for a meal!
2006-08-09 10:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Andy!!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be marriage. How long have you guys dated. He has a valid point, most men wont take you out to eat to break up with you. Most men are terrified and chicken and will tell you that over the phone so they don't have to see the heartbreak in your face. I bet its a positive thing. Good Luck
2006-08-09 10:53:33 · answer #5 · answered by rockwithelmo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is considering stepping up the relationship a notch, physically maybe, and maybe emotionally as well, the question is, will you be able to give the appropriate response? Do you like him enough to advance, or would you rather fish around a bit more. Do you know what you want out of this relationship, and will you you be able to express yourself honestly and openly. I think answering these thoughts first will better prepare you.
2006-08-09 10:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by jeremiah s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might not be that bad. Depending on how long you two have been together. If he is acting funny you may be getting the wrong idea he may actually pop THE question. Or it may be something as minor as you snore in your sleep. remain calm until you have something to freak out about. Be positive but realistic.
2006-08-09 10:54:44 · answer #7 · answered by barbara_taylor17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooo, I don't envy you. I hate when people do this to me. If it's that important then talk about it there in the now....Argg!
But...it could be good news. A proposal maybe? Maybe he's getting a new job that is relocating him/you? Could be so many things. You poor thing, I'll bet you are out of your mind.
Chin-up and hang in there. You'll find out soon enough.
2006-08-09 10:55:02 · answer #8 · answered by THP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what you want to hear you need to go. It may be something you don't want to hear but its better to find out then to stay in the dark. Either way it will eventually cause problems in your relationship. If he wants to leave you he's going to do it regardless of whether you want to hear it or not. But if you trust him then you should believe him when he says he's not leaving. It could be that he had good news to tell you. But you have to go to find out. Good luck.
P.S. What happens if you decide not to go?
2006-08-09 10:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by tweetybird3083 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the tone and the way he said it. If it sounded serious, he might be tring to propose to you. Try not to jump the gun about things. Find the positive in every situation and you will always prosper.
2006-08-09 10:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by Krazy K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋