well let me tell you a few things first well my mother was murdered when i was 18 months old and my father died of lung cancer when i was 11 years old. well before me dad passed away my dad wanted his 1st cousin to take me in him and his wife. well they did for a while and they got real attached to me, well my father turned around and took me away from them and put me in this christian home well let me get to the point it was hell. then my father passed away thinking he was putting me in this great chrsitian home well it wasnt . that father of that family was a very preverted man toward me. and the mother was a ***** to me all of the time. well when my father died when i was at a young age i didnt know nothing about my family ware abouts..well i got married and i started searching about my past that i had lost, well 3 or 4 months ago i met the family that my father gave me to and then took me away. well i started calling him dad and my father in law told me very hateful not to call him
2006-08-09 03:00:21 · 5 answers · asked by faithsalyers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Are you not allowed to have two fathers? Lets say that the man you call father was in fact was your father and you still got married and all of that, your father in law when then also be your father in a sense. I think that you should call him father if it fits. My husband talks about what was his favorite grandma and he loved her dearly but it really wasn't his grandma.
Maybe your father in law is hurt that you would give that title to someone else, when he felt it belonged to him. Have you ever in your own words told him what you have been through and why you choose to call him "father" and that it doesn't take away from his potion in the family or what he means to you. Unless he's just plain rude and mean. Congratulations on finding your family best of luck
2006-08-09 17:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by shiva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for all the mixed up people you've had around you all your life. As an adult of course you get to choose your relationships and if the family your father had originally wanted to put you with are good people by all means put them into your life. Your life is your business, not your father-in-law's. Tell your father-in-law you don't have to include anyone who acts hateful to you into your space ever again and that includes him.
2006-08-09 03:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by Seagoat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of you are getting your feelings hurt, so there is a lot of anger. You have the right to call him Dad if that's what you want. Try to talk to your father-in-law and explain why you are doing it. Maybe he is just jealous of your relationship with him. Good luck..
2006-08-09 03:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father in law is being that way, because he feels as your major father figure, like you are replacing him. try to do more things with him.
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2006-08-09 03:10:49 · answer #4 · answered by officeofimpressions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is your decision....not his. You choose what to call this person. I would Nicely tell your fatherinlaw, that this is the only father you felt you had and that you could call him what you want. Hope it helps.
2006-08-09 03:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋