I have been away from her for 3 months. She is still in my mind. I just can't get her out of my mind. I need your help.
What I need from you is something that i could do to get her out of my mind.I think I am very much infatuated with her or if I ever felt something as love then this must be it.
It hurts me to think of her being with some other man. however i want to be with her so much, I would agree if she took me as a second boyfriend or a friend for herself. I know it sounds pitiful, but i can't help it.
I am scared that my love for her is going to ruin my life. I don't want to go through life with this pain of not being able to be with her. I am seeing someone now. she has better qualities than my x-girlfriend, however when i am in the bed with the new girl i still think about my x-girlfriend. Somedays i wanna cry so bad cause i can't be with her.i am 32 years old. Would you please don't answer this question with "move on" or "get a life" type of answers?
2006-08-09 02:57:00 · 18 answers · asked by Bo Vegas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perfectly natural for you to feel this way.
Don't EVER settle for second best. I know that you want to be a part of her life anyway that you can. But being friends is just going to make it more difficult for you to come to terms with your feelings and try to deal with them.
Obviously, you are still very much in love or infactuated with her. Whichever it may be....these things take time to get over. The old saying holds true.............we always want what we can't have. It is very easy to get love and infactuation confused!!!
Your love for her or infactuation for her IS NOT going to ruin your life. I PROMISE!!!!!!!!
It sucks right now and I know that your heart is breaking. There have been times where I thought my heart would stop beating. Time heals all wounds.
I love my boyfriend very much and often think of other men when we are in bed together... so you are not alone there.
The only problem with moving on, is that you will not be able to do that very easily until you deal with the feelings that you have for your ex.
Have you spoken to her about the way that you feel. Even if there is no chance of reconciliation, maybe if you express your feelings to her it will help you to move on. Also, try to keep a journal. Write down the things that you are feeling. At least this will be an outlet for you. Try vigorous exercise. That's what I do when I am very angry or upset. You would be suprised at how much this helps. And then there is the good ole rebound. Hook up with someone that you are very attracted to, to take your mind off of your ex.
Sorry to hear about your situation and your broken heart. God, I have been there more times than I care to admit.
Good Luck sweetie.
2006-08-09 03:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Mystery Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You move on with your own life. There are many ways on how to forget a person whom you'd love so much before. Here are some steps or ways:
1. Do the yoga. You need to relax your self. Take a deep breath and empty your mind. Let it float to the emptiness and then let your mind bring you to magical places wherein all you need to do is to fantasize, dream and believe you can do anything. Don't worry it's just a dream wherein you will always be the actor/actress in the script.
2. When you wakeup, you must have to think of something worth productive. Hit the internet, chat with friends or relatives online not related to your ex; Hit the Library or bookstore and scan for magazines, books, math/science text books, answer puzzles, etc. just try to be busy.
3. Watch tv, dvd or goto cinemas. invite some friends. enjoy your self.
4. Go to the market and buy the elements of your favorite dishes. go home and cook, bake some cakes, invite some friends or relatives and eat all you can!
5. Play chess, basketball, football or any sports you'd love to play.
6. Hit the gym. Do some workouts. Ask for the assistance of the gym instructor if your a newbie. do this for 1 month if you like to.
7. Have a drink with your pals but dont get too drunk. Avoid conversations about your pass troubles. Enjoy!
Enjoy life! Move on. Life is beatiful. Be blessed all the time!
2006-08-09 03:24:52 · answer #2 · answered by Wobie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be perfectly honest; the best way to get over someone that you love a lot or have strong feelings for is to find someone else that you can have strong feelings for. I'm not saying "rebound relationship", because that is usually given a negative connotation, but if you spend some time exploring other people (i'm not saying sleeping around either), but if you found love once, you WILL be able to find it again. Just think about how exciting the "new love" felt like with your last girlfriend, it's definately an exciting thing to capture and there ISN'T just one person for everyone, just one person at a time. The new girl that you are with may have "better qualities" but she obviously isn't what you're looking for. What you're looking for is someone like your old girlfriend, which isn't good either because that person will always remind you of your old love... just find someone that excites you just as much, just in a different way. There are so many levels to love that I GUARANTEE that you haven't experienced everything yet. Good Luck!
2006-08-09 03:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by soft rockstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel my boyfriend and i broke up after an 8 month relationship and even now 5 months later i find myself tracing back to these memories of how it used to be and how perfect we seemed for each other and how in love we were. i'm sorry to say this but unfortunately you will always think about her she was one of those people you'll possibly never forget or even never get over. but as for trying to move one and get away from those memories you need to find something you are truly interested in...something that can consume time and let you have other things on your mind. although you have a new girl in your life it doesnt necessarily mean that your going to forget the old one or the new fact that she is with another man there is nothing you can do about that. with the new woman in your life you should build up that relationship to the absolute best it can be and when it reaches that point, then i believe you'll be able to let go of the past and begin a wonderful future.
2006-08-09 03:30:23 · answer #4 · answered by jul324 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can imagine how hard it is to forget someone you still love. I've been through the same situation. But believe me, time is the best remedy. It took one year for me to recover. First of all don't be so pessimistic about this situation. Everything that happens in our life is not in vain and it happens for the best. It can mean that something better is awating for you. All you need is to let her go. Try to stay positive and entertain yourself. Everytime she gets in your mind, switch yourself to something different and keep yourself busy - go to the gym, meet with your friends, work or take a vacation for 10 days, change the environment! Don't think that your break-up is the worst thing that can ever happen on earth. There are much more horrible things in life than a break-up. Thank God that she's alive, safe and sound! Just wish her the best of happiness and forget. Believe me, she'll regret sooner or later but it won't matter to you anymore by that time. Just try to get angry with her and find, for example, some negative fiture or habit you don't wanna bear with and concentrate on that. And the most important thing - when you date a new girl, DON'T EVER try to compare the new with your ex! I know right now you miss her more as days go by, but trust me you'll get over it. Just be strong and keep yourself busy!! take care!!
2006-08-09 03:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by ALiYa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of these emotions have to do with the break up. They only thing you can do is, and I know you said no simple answers like "get a life" or "move on", but moving on is honestly all you can do. Try and find a creative outlet. Start blogging, or start a hobby.
Sorry I couldn't be of more help.
2006-08-09 03:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by <3 See Jane Run <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has discarded you then there is no hope that she will adopt you again,you must have done something wrong.Anyway try to spend some quality time with your new g friend,with the passage of time you will forget her,even if at present you are in the habit of comparing your current with your old in each and every work,try to make yourself understand that you wont be able to get her back therefore it is better for you to be with your new for each and every occasion.
2006-08-09 03:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by suchsi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will take a LONG time to get over someone u truly cared about, so just give urself some time. i would suggest see and meet new people. dont concentrate on one specific female. and also even wen ur in bed with someone else, its normal to think of her...but like i said just give urself time and think of her, and i dont know if ur able to do this or not but if u move away from her it would be easier to forget her, because oviously its not meant to be. and wen ur able to forget about her u will realize that u would not want to mess up ur life over a female ...
â¥Good Luck, and Hope that Helpedâ¥
2006-08-09 03:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by custom_made_mami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With out loosing time, choose another girl with better qualities minus the bad ones in the earlier girl.
2006-08-09 03:02:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I been through alot but im getting better. But how to get her out of your mind is just when she pops in your mind just say i don't have time for you right now just like you don't have time for me. It works for me when things pop in my mind. Say it in a calm matter it should work.
2006-08-09 03:08:54 · answer #10 · answered by Christy H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋