What would u do please help me out?

Question

Im in a relationship for the pass year and a half but its causing a problem with my family why is because they think that my boyfriend is a player and hes not good enough for me. I really love this guy because i think that hes one of the best guys i ever met we have a good relationship i would say yes we have our ups and down but my the end of the day we r back as lovers and bestfriend. Whats really bothering me know its causing a strainage on me with my family they want me to stop talking to him but i cant i dont want to disrespect my family but i just cant leave him. They say a player will never change hes going to do me the same things that he do with other girls. Right now at the back of my head im wondering his he going to cheat on me like wat they say. Do u think i should get out of the relationship

Answer 1

ok a few questions first. "I really love this guy" Does he love you? " think that hes one of the best guys i ever met" so not true. Don't limit yourself. I can't tell you if you need to get out of the relationship. I know it's hard on your family and I know you guys have had your ups and downs. All relationships do. If he loves you, and you love him and yall trust each other then I don't see a problem. I would talk to your parents and tell them that this is what you want to do and you feel like this is a good idea for you. I would say...a learning experience if you will. Do you know that he is a player? Has he cheated on u? Well, that you know of? It's your life and if you are happy with him and he is the same with you, I would seriously talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. But remember- your family is important. Don't leave them out. They will be your support when things go wrong in your life.

Answer 2

I think you should really go with your heart. I was in the same exact situation except that I was 15 going on 16 at the time. My boyfriend already had a girl and I came in between but he was still going back to her and my parents knew and especially my dad he hated him, I know I was young, but not all young people are dumb.I stuck with him and the going back and forth only lasted about a month, and I would have never guessed we would still be together 7 years later. Since then 7 years ago he has never ever ever cheated on me(knock on wood) and we now have 2 beautiful children. So you can be happy and my parents love him now.

Answer 3

relationships are hard enough for the people directly involved in it, than it is for the people on the outside looking in. remember the choice you make YOU have to live with it. Do not make a choice without proof.you'll be unhappy doing it for someone else and not you. Now, dealing with him cheating one thing, but i have learned that in as little as 2 years a cheater will cheat... and if he's a dogg he will do it multiple times. If you have high expectations do not forgive him. If you believe he is the only one for you (which you will find to be bogus if you make it passed 2 years)keep working at it, just dont be his fool. The way you start is the way you will end up.. IT"S TRUE! As long as you allow him to screw up he will keep screwing.

Answer 4

Once a cheat always a cheat,and I would have a talk with your bf and explain what is going on and that you feel it is best to separate,if it is truly meant to be than it might happen down the road,I would trust your family you know they love you and can see how this person hurts you,you deserve better.

Answer 5

stand back and look carefully at what is going on. Is your family talking about a past behavior with you are with someone else. Does he do anything that makes you think he may be doing something he should not be. do red flags go up....If you are sure this is what you want then you need to talk to your family and ask them to respect your choice. You don't have to take him with you when you go visiting. ASK your self why do they feel so strong about this person? don't loose your family over a man make sure he is worth losing your family over...... good luck

Answer 6

I know you don't want to hear this, but they are probably right. If he has cheated on other girls, it is almost guaranteed he will on you. Especially because you guys are young. He's probably not looking for anything serious, but you probably give something to him that other girls haven't. Don't think that it's enough to not cheat on you though. I would follow your families advice. They are older and can see things you might not be willing to see.

Answer 7

YOUR in the relationship not your family. You can't let them stand in your way of being happy. I don't know if you are thinking of marriage yet but the bible and vow say "forsaking all others and clinging only to each other tell death do you part" So if you plan on marriage then family becomes second to your husband.

Answer 8

I believe people do change. But if i were you i would not let my guard down. YES it is possible for him to change BUT you have to realize that players are sneaky. they have your heart and trust and they take advantage of that to cheat on you. As for your family, all they want is not to see you hurt. they're looking out for you. BUT its your decision and they should respect any decision you make.

Answer 9

Well if your older than 18 then it's your life and your choice but you should consider what your family is saying. Maybe they can see something you cannot because of your feeling for him.

Answer 10

Well sometimes we have to find out for ourselves. One suggestion I would advise you to share with your family is to allow you to live and make your own mistakes. That's the only way we learn!