My boyfriend continues to visit these sites, even after I told him it bothers me. He doesn't have on his profiles that he's taken, in a relationship, nothing. He says he's not talking to anyone, just looking. I thought that's what porn was for. I got really upset last week and reacted badly to this. He's mad at me now for getting upset. I think he's more in the wrong - afterall it's what he's doing that's upsetting me. I'm not sure how to handle this one.
2006-08-09 02:37:03 · 26 answers · asked by squaregirl30 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he should not be on there when he is taken and not having that he is taken on his profile is wrong. he has porn and thats all a man really needs you are not in the wrong here he is
2006-08-09 02:40:50 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES I do think there's something wrong with it IF there's a commitment involved. If he's dating you, then WHY would he need to continue to visit dating sites - HEEELLOOOO, he has a girlfriend.
I'd be upset too honey - it's just not right, and bottom line - what he's doing - is disrespectful to you...
Tell him how you feel - tell him either he dates you and forgoes the sex & dating sites or you're gone...you don't need or deserve this. You deserve a man who gives you his whole attention..
Take care sweetie, Marilyn
2006-08-09 02:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes – it’s wrong to continue with such activity. In a nutshell this is a small thing in comparison to life ups and downs. If he doesn’t respect how you on this, then there’s much more and bigger things he’s not going to respect. He’s selfish and for some reason finds more pleasure on the websites than what he have at home. I don’t encourage people to leave they’re mate, but I do highly recommend people to think bigger and broader. Look at themselves and what makes them happy, what they can and can’t tolerate, what’s acceptable and unacceptable. You must look at yourself and what pleases you and then you’ll have the answer to your question.
2006-08-09 02:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably not serious about the relationship you two are in. You need to tell him straight out if he wants to stay in the relationship you two are in then he needs to get off that site. He could be thinking that he could find someone better or he could like the attention he is getting on there. You should put yourself back on that site and see how he feels about it.
2006-08-09 02:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset. He has you so what is he looking for? If he doesn't understand what he is doing is wrong, he has issues and you may need to move on. There are plenty of guys out there that will treat you with the respect you deserve.
2006-08-09 02:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup .. its absolutely wrong to continue doing that while being in a serious relationship that you really care about you partner feeling and thoughts .. what you need to do is to take a serious issue about it ,, it isn't something that you will be upset about for a while then forget about and move on !! it threats your relationship .. he need to be more caring about you .. if he's not maybe you should think twice about how mush that man is committed to you ..
2006-08-09 02:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by need to know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on one hand, that is disrespectful to you because you are in a relationship, and his"jus looking" comment is ridiculous, but also, he mught say that you need to be secure in your relationship, and just because he is on these sites, doesnt mean he is gonna do anything but chat. the problem is you already spoke to him about and he isnt willing to stop for you, so now you need to figure out how much it really does bother you, enough to leave him?
2006-08-09 02:41:49 · answer #7 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ironic that you say that's what porn if for, because I was told there was no need to look at porn if I was interested in my woman. The dating sites, no. There is no need for him to be on there "just looking!" I wish my woman had your understanding.
2006-08-09 02:41:15 · answer #8 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he still goes after you have told him how it makes you feel. then he has no respect for your feelings and you need to say good bye. it is an emotional affair... hurts like hell but if you cut it off now save yourself from further pain. If he is on those sights makes you wonder is he looking for the next victim after you toss him out... think about it if he is looking there what makes you think he hasn't met them in person.....
2006-08-09 02:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it's not healthy in a thing called relationship. I think he is showing some kind of dissatisfaction or frustration over you or something. He doesn't need that at all if he has a girlfriend.
2006-08-09 02:41:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋