Do u think single parents are a good thing sometimes?

Question

Sometimes girls want to be single parents because they don`t want to deal with the other person,what do u think?

Answer 1

I can see how, if a woman had a good job and wanted a kid, a man might be too much trouble.

Often, they have the family and community support to raise a child, so no "need" for a dad....

To be fair, I know alot of very nurturing caring guys who really want to be fathers (and would make excellent dads), but fatherhood isn't valued so much in our society... and it's too bad that in their cases, their wives and girlfriends keep custody of the children (when the guys are much better parents).

Two parents are not necessary, but (for most people), sharing the burden of child rearing (emotional and financial) is much more pragmatic than doing it alone.... but I admire those who ARE able to be good single parents and choose that path (I couldn't do it)!!

Answer 2

I believe we are forgetting the true meaning of parenting... I feel that the child is losing out when they only have one parent to rely on.

I was a product of a single parent (divorce & abuse) and it was the right choice. I do remember the struggles and the times when your single parent could not make the play or the award ceremony due to things out of their control.

We should think about what that child is missing out on in his/her life when you make these decisions to just have a child for the sake of having one without any intention of dealing with the other person.

I'm not saying you can't have a successful and happy home because of this but there may be a time to arise when having that partner in your life will be missed from a childs point of view.

Answer 3

It all depends on how old these girls are you're talking about. Young girls shouldn't be worrying out being parents anyway. They should be having fun and enjoying their youth. Kids should come later. Now adults sometimes don't have a choice, fathers and mothers leave all the time. I think the worst is when two people stay together for the kids and fuss, fight and disrespect each other day and night in front of them. This does more harm than good. In this case I think it's better that they parent from two different households.

Answer 4

I think single parents created out of circumstance do credible jobs with the cards they've been dealt. My mother was a single parent and because we were abandoned, she did an excellent job raising me by herself. I was a single parent for similar reasons. But to set out to be a single parent by design seems to be a colossal mistake. Children have an innate need for both parents....even with the best single-parenting skills imaginable, something is found lacking. We were created to need each other, and our children do as well. If you don't want to be bothered with another personality, hold off on being a parent until that perspective changes. Most single parents I know never chose that situation...it was thrust upon them by circumstance. Even under the best of circumstances it's far harder than you think.

Answer 5

no. My parents divorced when I was 5, and I remember it to this day, and im now 23. Even tho 80% or something like that, most kids come from a family where their mom and dad split up. This does something things to the child. For starters, it makes them question who do i want to be around most..mom or dad? You never want a child to make that kind of a decision. The support of both parents is best if all possible, but don't stay with your wife/husband because of "the children". That is a stupid reason and will only make your life miserable. Id rather make that decision then to see my parents miserable growing up.

Answer 6

Only when the other parent is an abusive person. Otherwise it is only fair to the children to have a mother and a father in the home. Either God or Nature, whatever your beliefs are, selected children to come from 2 a woman and a man, which means pretty much that either God or Nature saw fit for 2 a woman and a man to be involved in raising a child.

Answer 7

As much as i believe both parents are impt for a child, i've been taken care of by a single parent i:e my mom, sometimes its better that way, if there are continous fights in the house or lots of spouce or family issues it cause more emotional trauma for the kid, so its better when one parent takes over.
but even though i've had/ still havin a very nice time just being with my mom i do crave to know what it wud be like to have a loving and caring father unlike mine.

Answer 8

I think it's a very selfish decision to bring a child in the world without intentions of having a partner. A mother needs to be selfless and purposefully having a child without a father is selfish. The only person to pay the price is the child. Have you ever met someone who never knew one of their parents? Searching for that other person usually occupies their mind for some time as a young adult. Why purposefully do that to someone?

Answer 9

Sometimes yes and some times no.I am a single mother of 2 girls.I am with one of the fathers and I have been with him for 10 years.Do make sure that if you have a child that it has a part of the other parents life.It is what is the best for the child just not only you.

Answer 10

I think both parents are both inportant in a childs life. I also think that if you don't want to deal with the other person, you shouldn't have layed up with them in the first place. The only one suffering would be the child if there is lack of a parent.