just maried and i am worried
2006-08-09 01:42:48 · 26 answers · asked by louise r 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You will always fantasize! Just be sure you love your spouse.
2006-08-09 01:47:00 · answer #1 · answered by BuyTheSeaProperty 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
you can fantasie about others at any time in marriage. whether it's two months or two years. just make sure it stays a fantasy it's when you think about the other person more than you do your other half the problem starts. can you not tell a friend then at least you might not as feel as intense about your fantasy. and talking about things makes you feel your not losing a grip on real life. i know where your coming from cos i've had exactly the same problem head in the clouds fantasising about someone else.for me it's a distraction from life. ask yourself is that the same for you and can you do something to improve your current situation
best wishes
2006-08-09 10:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you fantasize DURING sex, or in place of sex, or just whenever? I would be concerned if fantasy is replacing a good physical relationship with your spouse. Fantasy and porn sometimes tend to drive a wedge between partners, isolating them rather than bringing them together.
If you are fantasizing during the act... well it kind of depends. I think that if you are having thoughts and visions of an old lover, maybe 'the one that got away' or something, then you need to work on your focus and really think about your spouse and why you love him/her. If it's 'movie star' fantasy, one you know you'll never attain and you just do it as a whimsy, no real problem.
Personally I knew I was set with my mate for life when I realized that my fantasies all involved her!
Have you ever talked about this with your mate? Are you fantasizing about doing different acts, or about being with different people? You might find out they also have fantasies, and you can explore them together, just the TWO of you, and enjoy a very full, open, vulnerable love life together.
Establish trust now, and don't hide things from your spouse. If you're feeling worried, talk about it with your spouse. Believe me, you don't want to talk about it with anyone of the opposite sex, as it can only lead to trouble.
2006-08-09 08:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by newbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The human race thrives on fantasies. Enjoy them while you can especially if they spice up your love life. Don't worry about the people who've said it's not good if it doesn't involve your husband. It's when you act them out with other than your husband when you would need to worry.
2006-08-09 08:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by FontOfNoKnowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been married for seven years i fantasise all the time over a nother man there is no harm in it
2006-08-11 18:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anna B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ...u shld be fantasising about yr wife .....Go buy karma cd or some sex games to spice up yr sex life ....
If this goes on long term ...it will effect u n yr marriage ...
take care !
cheers :)
2006-08-09 08:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by pevans9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every man fantasises constantly - just don't act on it. Well, a hand-shandy isn't being unfaithful
2006-08-09 08:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by disco_stoo_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the fantasies invlove your wife your in serious trouble! You better find a way to spice up your marriage quick!
2006-08-09 08:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by Gregg H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fantasize about what?
It is common for ment to fantasize about making love to another woman while having sex with their wives.
It is bad to think about doing her harm.
You need to be more specific about the caliber of fantasy
2006-08-09 08:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It´s ok to fantasize at any point of your marriage as long as you NEVER act upon those fantasies (that involve other men or women).
2006-08-09 08:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by Green-Eyed Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fantasise about what exactly? if its another person yeah id be worried 2!!!
2006-08-09 08:47:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋