Is there something wrong or am I just reading into this too much?

Question

I met a woman and she has two kids(5 & 7). He last boyfriend didn't like her kids and that was one of the reasons they broke up, she is telling me that she likes being with me and her kids do also, we have only went out twice but we email and text a lot, now she is telling me that she doesn't want to date anyone and that she wants to enjoy her freedom of being single, she tells me that I am too nice to her also, Am I suffering from the nice guy curse?? any ideas on what is going on in her head???

Answer 1

she afraid tt u gonna ditch her.. she wants so badly for u to accept her as a single mom n her 2kids and nw she found tt man (n tt you) but she is afraid history will repeat itself n u gonna leave her..

if u truely love, propose to her n tell her tt u love her forever n ever n will alw b there for her when she needs it. tell her its alright to b scare but ur feelings for her is true. and when she see n hear tt, she wont wan to break up w u..

gd luck n take care.

Answer 2

Usually that is due to being scared of commitment, bacause she doesn't want to have more responsibilities-her kids are a big responsibility and commitment. She has to do her thing, and that involves not getting YOU wrapped up in her adventure. I suggest that if you are a "nice guy", that you stay that way and keep an eye out for the next catch, cause it should be better.
I'm a mom, and I'd previously been a single mom.... my other half is a "nice guy" and I love him so much, and I was not used to the "nice ones."

Answer 3

She is gun-shy and just not ready to date. Not for nothing, she shouldn't be allowing her children to interact with those she dates until she knows it will be a relationship and the man is going to be around for awhile...it's too confusing for kids to continually meet her dates. But it sounds as if she's being forthright with you because you are a nice guy...there's nothing wrong with that. Best thing you can do is to move on and let her work her stuff out.

Answer 4

I'd say she is scared and has trouble accepting that she is worthy of being treated well. She probably has some negative thinking and does not feel worthy of your affection. People are afraid of what they don't know and they are afraid of change. I don't think it's the nice guy syndrome, it sounds like she might be getting scared. I'd back off and not contact her so much, see what happens. But Kudos to you for being a nice guy..wish there were more of you around! Good luck!!

Answer 5

She is probably a little uncertain as to what she wants right now. And considering her main priority is her children, she doesn't want to get hurt again, as well as involving her children. Maybe just give her some time, a couple of weeks, a couple of months. I don't know, give her a call maybe in a couple of months and see where she is then. Good Luck.

Answer 6

I think she's a little confused. She was hurt before by a man that did not like her children and she's just being a good mom and protecting her children and her heart.
I think you should just play it by ear, don't rush it. action always speaks louder than words. Don't tell her just show her. Good luck!

Answer 7

nicely the purely element you may do is take her up on one in all her delivers and locate out! perchance once you get her on my own you men can extremely communicate w/o different persons being there. would not harm to attempt!

Answer 8

she likes you and wants to be with you, but is saying so to give you the chance to think in that relation and decide what will be done without any pressure.

Answer 9

i think the minute she gets something she thought she wanted she changes her mind. in all honesty i dont really think she knows what she wants. good luck!

Answer 10

she doesn't know what she wants or who she wants at this moment in time in her life