I already bought gifts for my friend's bridal shower, and i've been told money is the most appropriate gift for the actual wedding. How much should I give? I am going alone. If it matters, it is not black tie, but to my knowledge is not 'cheap' either.
2006-08-09 01:16:24 · 16 answers · asked by beautifullyboring 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I just got married June 10th and after opening nearly 150 wedding cards in which most included monetary gifts we observed that the going rate was $50-100 depending on how well the guest(s) knew us. It really would depend on your financial situation and how well you know the couple. Our wedding was not black tie but it was as you say not "cheap" either! I would reccomend $50-$100 depending on what you can afford and know that the bride and groom are going to appreciate your decision and appreciate the gift! Good luck and have fun at the wedding!
2006-08-09 03:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by jessicamarie0572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give what you can afford to give. It shouldn't matter if the wedding is "black tie" or not. Also, if you want to give a gift rather than cash, that's up to you, too. Giving a gift (no matter what kind) is appropriate. Don't go broke with the gift giving. The bride and groom will be happy to have you as a wedding guest and they should be happy with whatever gifts they get.
Go and have a good time!
2006-08-09 03:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by Malika 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make a monetary wedding gift appear more than what it is, since you've already given a gift - which in my part of the country, it is never expected to give a gift but once - give a money bouquet that has one dollar bills folded in fans and tied all around the bouquet - or if you're in a higher price abililty than I am - make them a mixture of dollar amounts - but it is never considered proper to give more than your 10% tithe amount would be - that is financial logic whether it is etiquette or not. And they always have fun counting the money bouquet latter - as they don't usually have time as they are unwrapping gifts - and it is unique! But even more than that - it's what you give from the heart that truly matters the most, not that you keep up with the standards. That's the truest sign of friendship.
2006-08-09 01:24:46 · answer #3 · answered by dph_40 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The actual amount depends on many things:
- your pocketbook/earnings/available cash
- how close a friend this person is
- where you/they live
- their needs
For example, some folks give "more" to close friends/family members; and what is considered "generous" in, say, Iowa, may just be "normal" in, say, New York City.
Having said that, estimate how much it would cost you to have a "splendid night out on town", multiply that by three (the equivalent of you inviting the couple's company) - and aim for that amount. More or less, as your purse allows.
The lower limit: equivalent amount of nice dinner for two.
If you can stretch, that'd be good, since you are wishing them the best, and that the marriage will last. So give with that spirit.
And... have fun!
2006-08-09 02:02:23 · answer #4 · answered by Silvana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been to very nice wedding where gifts were given, but cash was also requested from those who wished to give for the honeymoon. You are not expected to give both, or if you decide to contribute, in your case, where you have purchased gifts, only give a token cash gift. You should not feel obligated to give a large amount. It is a gift, chosen by you and will be appreciated by the bride and groom.
2006-08-09 03:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by tobinmbsc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
$50
2006-08-09 05:00:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend got married last year her and her husband had also lived together prior to the marriage so they had everything they needed so when I decided to give cash I spoke to her mother to find out what there plans were for the honeymoon (didn't talk to friend didn't want her to know I was giving cash)
So once I knew where they were going I knew the amount to give and it was $200.00 but, I had that to give. There might be other Ideas the family can give you to have an Idea of the amount you will offer in the joyous union of your friend.
2006-08-09 01:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by Carol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how close you are to the bride and groom. I would give anywhere from 40 to 100. Don't bankrupt yourself for a gift. Give what you can afford
2006-08-09 04:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say for a single person $100 is the norm, whereas $200 for a couple would be the norm. Of course there are always personal exceptions.
2006-08-10 04:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, you usually pay the cost of your food plus how much you would drink. That's providing its an open bar.
If it is not an open bar then you pay a maximum of $30 dollars for the cost of your dinner. Then you pay for your drinks.
If it is an open bar and the drinks are free, then you play the cost of your food and how much you would drink. I usually pay $50 per person, 25 for food and 25 for alcohol. OK 10 for food and 40 for alcohol, but that's my business :)
2006-08-09 08:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by Tyana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋