did you marry the person you did because you had no better options and didnt want to live life alone?
in other words, did you "settle"?
2006-08-09 00:53:44 · 41 answers · asked by redirus91 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I got married when I was 19 & thought I was in love.We seperated when I was 21 & I now have been with someone for the past 7yrs. & have 3children with but not married as I am to afraid to go down that path again.
2006-08-09 01:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by angie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I married for love the first time at age 23 waited for 5 years before having a child-then when my daughter was 2 we divorced. he thought the grass was greener somewhere else. I waited 7 years till Mr. Right came into my life and neither of us were looking for a relationship. We have been together for 16 wonderful years. Here are some reasons we stay together: We communicate,have unconditional love, picture growing old with each other, and spontaneous with our lovemaking good luck
2006-08-09 02:38:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,when I met my husband I fell in love. We dated for a while. The longer we dated the more I knew I couldn't live without him. And then he asked me if I'd marry him. I said yes. And now I'm happier then I've ever been. We just had our first son july 10 and life is wonderful. If ya feel you've settled you should get out of ya marriage and look for that one true love for you.
2006-08-09 04:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sondra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the person that was right for me and I know it was the best choice.We have had some rough times and some very good times.All in all,I look forward to spending the rest of my life with him and growing old together.It has been 11 years now and it has gotten a lot smoother.We know one another better so there is less arguing.
2006-08-09 01:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by miracle1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. I had dated very few men before I met my current husband. When he came along and seemed relatively normal, I was convinced he was my Knight in Shining Armor. We had been dating about 8 months when I became pregnant with our first son. We had briefly talked about marriage before then, but that was it...brief conversations. We ended up marrying because I was pregnant. I often wonder if I hadn't become pregnant, what would have happened. Or, if we had waited until later in our relationship/marriage to have kids, how our marriage would be different. I guess what it boils down to is yes...I settled.
2006-08-09 15:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. When he asked me I looked into the future (seriously) and saw us happy and growing old together. I also saw that I would not get another chance and that I could also be happy alone. I chose not to be alone, but it was definitely not a matter of "settling" either. We have been together 36 years and are still very much in love.
2006-08-09 01:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by Drewe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i certainly didn't settle...
actually, i was looking forward to being alone for a while and he kinda crept up on me...
i'm still young and sometimes i start to miss the dating days where you got the jitters and worried so much how you looked...but i don't regret getting married at all...
the fact of the matter is, better-looking guys will always come around...just b/c you get married doesn't mean you don't notice if another guy is good-looking...what you have to realize is are you ever going to find someone as good as what you have now? looks come and go, but the way they treat you, treat your children...that's different...
my husband is far from perfect...but when i measure the good things he does to the things that irritate me, the good wins...it's just a matter of changing your attitude when he starts to irritate you and remembering that good guys like him are hard to come by...good guys who won't beat you or cheat on you or verbally abuse you or sexually abuse your kids...
when u get someone like that...someone who "worships the ground you walk on" and is willing to communicate and compromise...the only thing that you might actually find that's better in someone else would be their temporary looks...the way people are nowadays, it's hard to find a good partner, whether male or female...once you have that person, hold on for dear life...
2006-08-09 01:06:30 · answer #7 · answered by tigrisow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did I settle for my husband? No. Did I settle for some lifestyle changes? Yes.
There's been a few days when I've wished it was just me, the cat, and some research to do. I'm sure he's had days when he wished it was him, the TV, and unhealthy greasy foods...
I love him, and I'm pretty sure he loves me. He is always very kind, and though we have the occasional row, it's not make-or-break.
2006-08-09 01:47:48 · answer #8 · answered by Fed_UP_with_work. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I married the man I loved and we have been together for 24 years. It just keeps getting better!
2006-08-09 00:58:51 · answer #9 · answered by mom2all 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way, i didn't settle. before we got married, he had to move out of state, 1100 miles away. there wasn't any hesitation in my mind to go with him, to leave everything and drive to a new life. he was my choice, and 2 mos later we got married.
that's the question i use if someone i know is unsure about getting married: "if this person moved 1000 miles away tomorrow, would you follow them?"
2006-08-09 03:44:18 · answer #10 · answered by rawlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋