Bride's input on shower?

Question

I'm MOH and starting to plan the shower. I know I need to ask about the guest list, date & time. What else should I consult the Bride about for the planning of her shower?

Answer 1

I htink it all depends on how involved you would like her to be and how much of a surprise you would like. I think if I were the bride I would want to know what kind of games (if any) you were planning, I wouldn't want to find out the day of the shower that you are making me do something embarrassing.(also she may be able to tell you if her family will play along, etc) I don't think you NEED to consult her on decorations, but you may ask if anyone in her family has special dietary needs.
I think the great things about showers (for the Bride) is that she doesn't have to do the planning and organizing, but I think she would definitely want to be in the loop on what's going on - I'm not saying she needs to have a say in everything, but keep her informed of what you decided, then she may be able to warn you if something won't work, etc.
Hope this helps!
Good Luck.

P.S. Target's Clubwedd has awesome game ideas and other advice for throwing a shower.
http://sites.target.com/site/en/clubwedd/page.jsp?contentId=PRD03-001524

Answer 2

I just recently had my bridal shower Saturday and it was amazing. My advice to you is to consult the bridal on the food she prefers the worst thing you can do is have the bride show up and hate all of your food choices. Find out if she wants a nice elegant shower or if she would perfer a theme. Mine was tropical, and I had to wear a grass skirt the whole time it was nice but the skirt really got on my nervous. Do something original something she's going to remember for the rest of her life. It truly depends on the bride. But my advice is to consult the bride about major things food, guest list, date & time, elegant or more relaxed but still leave somethings unknown the bride still needs to be suprised.

Answer 3

You would get the guest list from her... or her mother.
You already know her colors....
You might want to ask her if there is something specific she wants... Like I want wine or some type of drink at mine!
And you'll need to know where she registered so can put that in the invites.
I wouldn't ask about the date and time..... I would actually call her FI or Mom and tell her she has to do something else that day with a relative or "photographer emergency" to surprise her!

Answer 4

You might want to ask her if she had anything in particular that she has in mind. My MOH asked me this, and I was very glad she did, because she was starting to plan a lavish shower at a nice resturant, and I really wanted something casual with finger food at someone's house. She might really have her hopes high for a particular theme, or a certain location. Don't press her to come up with something, but just ask if there are any preexisting ideas that she'd like you to know.

Answer 5

I'm also throwing a bridal shower soon (next month).

I have a bride that really wants to be a little bit involved with the planning, which didn't bother me since I have never been to a wedding shower, let alone, hosted one.

I told her my idea was to have a shower with a "wine tasting" theme.

She loved it.

So, I'm throwing it at a local winery in the wine cellar room (You can't see it in the picture, but there are wine barrels all along the right wall.): http://hiddenlakewinery.com/cellarrm.htm...

I got the addresses from the bride of who to send invites to, and also talked with her about a date that she would think was the best for her.

Then I kind of took the rest on myself. I designed the invites with grapes in the background to accentuate the wine theme. I also included a map to the place, an RSVP card (w/return envelope), and an insert of the registry info (which I also got from the bride).

I have decided to stay with the colors of the room (I had never heard that you use the wedding colors, until I started reading on this message board. Day late, dollar short.) and am having wine colored tablecloths, and gold plates/napkins. I am also borrowing hurricane lamps that I am going to put a candle in as the centerpiece on the table. I also bought some wax grapes to decorate the head/food tables. I am also going to get some shower balloons to put on the gift table.

I also asked the bride what kind of food she would want (My venue also has a menu I have to use, and I wanted to keep with the theme, so we kept that in consideration when talking about food.) and we came up with cheese & crackers, fruit & dip, and a cake. I am obviously having wine since this is a wine tasting themed shower, but am also bringing in punch (which the bride wanted).

I have also purchased a bridal shower book (from the party store) that I am going to have all the women inpart words of wisdom to the bride in, and leave their address in for thank you's.

As for games, I plan on doing the purse scavenger hunt (Make a list of items for women to find in their purse. The one with the most wins.) and the toilet paper bride, and want to do one more, but have yet to figure that out. For prizes, since I don't have give-awayable centerpieces, I bought some spa goodies in the dollar spot at Target (Check that out for some good stuff!).

As for favors, since I am having the shower at the winery, I am giving away engraved wine glasses as favors (They have the winery logo, and are $2 a piece).

I think that's about it..... I hope my experience has helped you get some ideas. Feel free to email me if you want to talk about it, maybe my experinence can help you, or maybe you can help me with mine. [e-mail]

GOOD LUCK!!! :)

Answer 6

You need to involve her on all aspects. What kind of favors you are going to give etc.. You should use part of her theme (colors etc) in the shower. I was only going to have red roses at my wedding. So my sisters gave pink roses away. Make sure you pay attention to colors to give the guests a taste of what the wedding is going to be like.

Answer 7

Ask her what she'd like to have at the shower. Some brides don't want the silly penis decorations and things like that. You don't have to tell her everything you're doing but it would be nice to get her input on things she'd like.

Answer 8

First i would talk to her and see what her clolors are. and go with the colors of the wedding or maybe see if she's having a themed wedding.and also see where she would like to have the Bridal shower. stuff like that. the only reason i know all of this is because i'm a birde to be myself.

Answer 9

You don't need to consult her about anything - just check the date.

Answer 10

1st find out the bride taste.