i mean, i don't want to scare people away. they think i'm serious and all. i know i'm shy but i'm not really serious. but my close friends tell me that i'm not the person they thought i was (it turned out i wasn't serious or shy). i'm trying to become "noisy" and talk to people and smile at people but some still think i'm too quiet or serious. help!
2006-08-08 23:28:09 · 16 answers · asked by smashmouth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Drink. Flirt. Have sex.
2006-08-08 23:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to let the world know that you are not shy or people around you?
You need to get out there and be the leader of your group of friends, you could do things like suggesting to go to fun places like nude beaches, or just go to a normal beach and go topless, or you could just wear a nice black bra on the street/shops.
Drinking alcohol also helps.
Just a few helpful suggestions, i assume this was posted in the singles and dating for a reason, otherwise i would have had a different response.
2006-08-08 23:37:39 · answer #2 · answered by Georg B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear friend, To make people think you are not that serious you need to talk to them. actualy your problem is you dont know what to talk about with people. choosing a topic is your big problem, right. so start dialogue with a new person as such.
u: what is your name?
a:my name is xyz.
u: what you do.
a: i am a student.
u: ok, so what subjects do you study?
a; i study economics
u:oh i like economics too. i have a problem in it can you help me
a ya sure whats the problem
U: if i want to be as rich as bill gates what should i do.
and so keep on the discussion, its boring ofcourse but once you get use to it you will shift from introversy to extroversy. remember, ask questions and try to present a point if you have on any topic. hope this will work
2006-08-08 23:42:38 · answer #3 · answered by Yasir Saeed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i had the same problem before. All ya have to do is not care about what people think of you, just be yourself. You are unique and there is no one like you. So yeh just be yourself around lets say, everyone. Just give it a go.
2006-08-08 23:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mousey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal motto goes something like this: Think of me all you like, but don't think that I'll ever be what you think of me.
This goes for everyone really. I don't even think that I may ever be or have ever been what I think/thought of myself. The good part of it is that we all have that illusive element of surprise on our side. Without it life would be boring and we'd all die yawning. To live your life, all you have to really be is you, surprising as that may seem or be even to yourself. Just don't let others bug you with you!
2006-08-08 23:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by groovusy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. Nothing wrong with being shy and serious. Some girls love that type.
2006-08-08 23:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm totally like you, get people's addy's talk to them on messenger, it brings your confidence out the fact people cant see your expressions and you're not being watched. I'm loud when people know me, always cracking jokes and making people smile with my words and since I've been talking to people on messenger I now have the confidence in reality. However loudness isn't nice all the time, you yourself know when to be quiet but theres a difference in loudness and talking right? Well you be yourself don't go over board to sway these peoples opinion because they're probably not easy to persuade.
You should laugh around more ( smiling is actually proven to make you happier!), joke, do dares, not bad ones, just confidence building just go upto someone and go "I'm doing this for school/college/uni (whatever) can I ask you if you live round here?" Or just questions with no significance but then do funny dares (none that could get you into trouble), and don't worry about whos watching, like me and my friends dance in music stores( just enough to laugh about but not to get banned over), I'd NEVER do that before but you're not gonna see the people again and if you do it might be for a good cause.
Think of it this way, be yourself, if they don't like it, they never will, but at least you've both had to chance to see because you're being free. And theres no great loss if they don't like you because they'd have not liked you all the same when they FINALLY get to know you ( for me it's taken...ohhhh errrrr 4 years!) 4 Years was a waste of my life, I never got to know anyone, and it's hard getting to know someone who doesn't speak much and is shy. I believe if you act more confident you'll feel it ( then you wont have to act anymore) that's why they say the most popular people aren't happy, and overly confident people because they act. And then it goes round in circles because they annoy people and they have to act more.
Discuss things that you like with people (my guess is you don't know what to say), don't be afraid to say when you don't like something because people will get the idea of who you are and what you like, be honest it's all about balance I think as you grow as a person you become more confident, love yourself, but not too much because then no one could ever love you more, and thats not good! You'll end up lonely & hard to please. Talk about your life, funny stuff ( that always wins with people - they love laughing! but not at other people's expence!)
I have much faith in these words because I used most of them myself and it's always great when you have genuine,outgoing, funny, mad friends too! Because you know you can get up and do stuff and they'll do it with you. But they'll kick your as.s if you ever change of pretend to be someone your not! You need to be yourself thats the main thing, popularity isnt all that great, being liked is. You need balance over everything, you know your downfall, you change it. When the time is right you'll bud.
Ooooh gosh I've written alot, toooo much! I just know I'm passionate about this topic because I've been through it myself. I don't know how old you are but you're young just before your growth as a person I guess, life will change soon.
Theres only one thing in life you need to know, BE YOURSELF.
2006-08-08 23:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just dont become a whore the world has enough of those damn party girls gone wild chicks its gettin old
just try to have a sense of humor about ridiculous things
things that borin people find stupid
2006-08-08 23:32:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should speak out with your freinds. People guys like shy girls. so dont be scared, just be yrself and open with yr freinds. u will soon find yrself smiling soon.
2006-08-08 23:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by Sunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in life it is important to be who u are as best as possible but also try to acommodate people around you try to interact coz u think u`r seriousness scares people away.also try to join social events but be careful not everyone has your best interest at heart.
2006-08-08 23:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by poodle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are on the right track. Be cheerful
upbeat and outgoing should solve the problem.
2006-08-08 23:32:41 · answer #11 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋