i seem to be disliked by my husbands family because i am very outspoken (not rude) and when things happend i always get pionted and blamed at even dough its not me just because of the way i am.
2006-08-08 21:54:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i let you know my philosophy, cause i'm the same way...be yourself, f**k everyone else...if people don't like me...i don't waste my time trying to please them or even talk to them...as long as your husband backs you up when it comes to his family's issues with you...who cares what they really think.
2006-08-08 22:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by acidpluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No!
You recognize that there is a problem and you make no bones about being outspoken. Yet when in some one else's home , ones' mouth should be temperate! Maybe your lack of decorum makes for odd man/woman out. You can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar. It seems to me that your speech is this way with your husband and you don't mind exploiting that fact in front of his family and to his family.
Not once do I hear the otherside of your spiel that says anything along the lines " that they may be mistaken for crass behavior".
Take a course in etiquette, it'll enlighten you on proper behavior for certain times and places.
By the way , when you get through eating , do you grab a broom and pull out a straw to pick between your teeth with at the table while having dinner with his family?
2006-08-08 22:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by Darknight469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately or fortunately what ever the case maybe we are all different and all have different personalities.We don't always get along with everyone and in-laws are probably one of the worst people to try to get along with as they feel rather than gaining a daughter they have lost a son. The best you can do is be yourself they will eventually appreciate who you are, you shouldn't have to change for them so just be patient.....There is nothing wrong with you, so if the finger is pointed at you again well stick up for yourself and don't let them get you down. I had to do the same thing, it took a number of years but my mother is law was so stubborn, it wasn't until she was dying until she told me that I was a good girl, she just did not want me to know that i was the right choice for her son. . So good luck to you.
2006-08-08 22:25:55 · answer #3 · answered by mermaiden_4_ever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...its more of..them...but you're quite a part of that too...
they do have a problem on you but i don't think its your fault...
they need to learn and accept who you are...
and they certainly should not blame you in whatever things that happened just because they cant blame anyone else or they are just afraid to admit that..that thing happened because them...
but you also need to quite adjust yourself,I'm not saying that you should completely change your being an outspoken person..you just have to lessen it...just a little...
2006-08-08 22:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by ePic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i get out of this...Your husbands family sounds like they want to be right all the time and doesn't like someone else stating an opinion...Sweety it's not you...It's his damn family...I really hope he stickes up for you!!! Just be yourself and don't let is family get you down...Besides,Your marry to your husband... not that group of know it alls...
Clowmy
2006-08-08 22:11:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex was so weak, that he used to always tell his mother that I was the reason for this or that. He would always ask her not to say anything to me about it, so she thought I caused all his money problems and problems in general cause he wanted to look like a hero. So they all treated me really bad untill I figured it out!
2006-08-08 22:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to mend your habits sincerely and be prepared to be the dutyful family member mingling with all of them without any reservations or taboos. Everything will be under control. Please ensure that things are not precipitated.
2006-08-08 22:04:15 · answer #7 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is even better they know you for who you are and not pretending to be cool and accept every condition. Make them (your husby and his family) understand the kind of person you are and with time they will begin to accept you for who you are.
Best of luck
2006-08-08 22:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by tonia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being outspoken is good. I like to know what my woman thinks.
2006-08-08 22:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to visit his family alone. Try to avoid contacts with them. Finally, you are married with your husband and not with his family.
Now he belongs more to you than to his family.
2006-08-08 22:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋