she is a good person but she has her business in every body eleses life and cannont control her own. her son is 18 and does nothing all day long except play x box he will not get a job. and then she wants me to push him and when i say something to him he says you are not my dad mind your own business and then my wife starts on me and it ends up iam the bad guy. she babys him and he is a mommys boy what can i do to get this kid to wise up he quit school he hits his mother i tell him to get out it lasts for a day or two and he cries to his brother and the brother tells the mother he has no where to go and mommy lets him back for it to start all over again i'am ready to just leave the stress is going to kill me can someone tell me what to do!
2006-08-08 21:33:02 · 9 answers · asked by allan l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't help someone that doesn't want to help themselves, i don't really know man. Without brute force the only thing i can think of is he hits his mom again call the cops try to get something done. Tell your wife ya he's 18 yr's old he's gotta get out in the world and make something of himself not sit on the couch or wherever expecting everything to come to him. Prove to him that he's got to work for the things he wants otherwise he's pretty much screwed. Like the rules of a boat Don't have money, work for your ride.
2006-08-08 21:40:33 · answer #1 · answered by OnE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a vicious circle and a repeating pattern that will continue until everyone concerned makes a decision to change.
I doubt the son will. The mother has to.
If this is bothering you to this point, walk away. I know it sounds difficult, but you need to preserve your own sanity. That cycle can only bring you down.
2006-08-09 04:39:21 · answer #2 · answered by Yah00_goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how one runs her life is her own... freewill and choice, right? you've done your part, the blame would be left for her's alone.
point is, the kid's immature for his age. introduce him to the world, be his friend and reach out.... how did your father taught you the lessons of life? how did you manage to tread to life when you were at his age?
the mother needs help, yes.... best is to counsel her to teach the kids responsibility. if she doesn't care nor listen, you just support her by being a listener. her actions should come on her own. her realizations must be hers. just be there in whatever way. gradually, she'd see her mistakes, but never ever tell her, "I told you so". just understand her by listening....
2006-08-09 04:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by VeRDuGo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must really love this lady. Otherwise...why are you still there? You really need to put the ball back in her court and tell her that she needs to be the one to tell her son........you are done getting abused for her. Maybe you all three need to go to counseling so you can be a real family.
2006-08-09 04:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by Living the Alaskan life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counseling for yourself. You'l be able to blow of steam and learn some tools for dealing with the situation.
2006-08-09 04:38:39 · answer #5 · answered by GJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE! Is this what you want? Drama?
You are not blood. Mama needs to figure it out with the boys. You need to do what is best for you.
2006-08-09 04:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by MOI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her to mind her own
2006-08-09 04:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by yogesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't get into other people's life.
2006-08-09 04:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by hsarora47 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that sucks, I would leave too
2006-08-09 04:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋