Do you have a best friend who is a member of a different ethic race?

Question

Do you have a best friend who is a member of a different ethic race? This person is someone that you would include in your wedding or when something good or bad happens to you. You would call them up and have a heart to heart conversation. Please do not use the phase “I have black friends”. People that you work with are not included. In a work environment, you have to get along with member of different races to get the job done. I want to know if you have friends beyond the work enivirorment.
In 2005, I was in a men’s bible study and there was a guy named “Chris”. I am African American and mostly the group is made of up of white men. I have been in this group for 2 years and it has helped me grown spiritually. I was the first one in the group to get marred. Chris would never talk to me or look me directly in the eye for the past 2 years. Being creatures of habit, we would sit the same place week after week during the bible study.
We were never friends but I have tried to talk to him. He would ignore me and not say anything to me. It hurt my feeling but I would only focus on the guys who would talk to me. In this group is made of single men in their 30’s who want to find the right woman. I was the first one in the group to get married. Most of the guys there were very supportive and happy that I found someone but a few didn’t share in my happiness. I felt like Star Jones. Some of the guys got angry that I would talk about getting and being married.
One night Chris said “Richard ought to leave the group and show us to the promise land.” I was really hurt and said “excuse me for living.” At the end of the Bible study, all the men in the group would pray for each other’s burden and prayer request. Chris prayed to out loud and said, “Dear Jesus let Richard know that I am not mad at him. He has as a lot to teach us about marriage.” I was sitting next to Chris and very I upset that he couldn’t say that to me face to face.
The next day prayed about what to do and called up “Chris”. He said “what did I do?”
I stated that I was very hurt by his comments. He said “what comments?”
I reminded him of his comment that I should “leave” Bible study group.” He stated that he didn’t say leave. He said I should lead the group to the promise land of marriage. I gave him the benefit of the doubt because I didn’t have my hearing aid in my ear that night.
Chris said “I didn’t know you had a hearing aid. “Yes I have it for the past 3 years. You never talk to me in the group. I would say “hi’ or “hello” and you would ignore me.
He stated “I do not know you that well”
“Well there are other guys here who may not know me but they start up a conversation with me. They ask how I am I doing.”
“I am sorry. I have black friends.”
“Just because you work with other black people, doesn’t make them your friends.
If you have black friends, these friends have to be inviduals that one would go out of their way to befriend them.
Sorry long story but I wanted to make a point. Do you have friends who are member of a different race?

Answer 1

I understand the hurt that you felt. My parents are mixed races and sometimes when people find out they act differently towards me. Sometimes it hurts.

My very best friend is the person that I can talk to for hours on the phone, we have cook outs, I know her children and their families and what is happening in their lives, we've helped each other move, celebrate birthdays and holidays, and we share the normal ups and downs of life.

My husband is white, I am fair-skinned but from mixed parentage, and my best friend is black. And it doesn't matter what race any of us are, I'd love them the same regardless. Since this is the R&S section, I will add that me and my best friend do not share the same religion either. And that's okay. We don't feel that we need to.

Answer 2

No I don't...almost everyone in my university department is white so there isn't much of an opportunity to make close friends with someone who is of a different race. I have made friends with some of the foreign exchange students, but they tend to leave so often that a close relationship can't form also language barriers have been an issue...I spent a whole week trying to explain sarcasm to a guy from Japan, apparently they don't use that form of humor there.

Answer 3

I am Southern American White...I have many Black friends with whom I do not work...men & women. Some I am very close to. I was not brought up to be racist. I think that God does not see the color of our skin any more than He see the color of our hair or eyes. He sees the heart & spirit of a person. So should we.

I try to be just myself. If people like me, great...if not, good & fine. I tend to be with people, I guess, who think pretty much the same as I do. However, it is nice to learn from people from other cultures. I would say stick with people who are worthy of you & do not bother with the rest.

Answer 4

I have a Jewish friend and he moved away a few years ago...i have been to see him and i have phoned him up 4 heart to heart talks on the world etc. i find his culture very interesting because i am a christian. i have been to his bar-mitzva and i have been around his many a time for dinner and alot of the things done are very different. i was singing happy birthday in english while the other 20 guests were singing in Hebrew! lol embarassing but it was fine.

Answer 5

ok, you may now chew your individual head off -- because of the fact British/German or Aussie at the instant are not races, yet consult with human beings from Britain, Germany or Australia. those are countries! you will have your black human beings from Australia or Germany, there, and your chinese language descended human beings in Britain. (colorations of Archie Bunker!) Your Jewish buddy replaced into nearer to top than you or your 4 pals! right here is why: certainty is, we are a faith yet in addition a rustic/human beings (Israel with human beings referred to as "Jewish" or "Israeli" if at the instant contained in the rustic. basically such as you may call your self British yet no longer stay in GB). So whilst somebody says they're Italian or Spanish or British, touching on their united states of america -- Jews can say we are Jewish touching on our united states of america/kin. Belgian or German or Finnish isn't a race, they're nationalities. Judaism isn't a race, that's a nationality that's additionally a faith. So your buddy replaced into top - Judaism is the two a rustic/human beings like Germany and a faith besides as Buddhism and interior of reach American faith. united states of america isn't comparable to ethnicity the two! There are Hispanic human beings from Mexico, Cuba, Puerto Rico, Spain, etc. who're now human beings and Asians from China, Malaysia, etc. contained in the U. S. (a rustic or tribe/state). you additionally can call your self a Maineiac, Texan, New Yorker reckoning on in spite of state (each and every state has it somewhat is very own little ethnic flavorings or perhaps sub-ethnicities by utilising area) -- or all of those can say they're American (which would be puzzled with Canadians and Brazilians who're additionally from the Americas). Oh look, no neat little racial, ethnic, tribal or national type labels right here the two! How approximately that. Curley Mo and Larry watch your individual heads waving that enormous rubber hammer thinking British/German or Irish/Italian is a race. solid grief, those nationalities (all eu) communities have been scuffling with for years. genuine, Judaism is a faith and that's a nationality. and.........the situation for the Jewish united states of america of Israel is none different than Israel. yet no longer a race because of the fact each and every race and ethnicity has Israeli citizenship. eh, thank you for this question for the 14th million time! i eventually have been given it why the haters have the desire to make us a race and not a faith or united states of america -- to get the concentration off human beings being rightfully in Israel.

Answer 6

yes i do her name is Angela and she is African American. I am Caucasin, i also have an oriental friend as well as hispanic.people are people the color of blood is the same.... were a skin kalediscope by GODS design, if well all looked the same that would be freakin weird or bad joke GOD played on us.

Answer 7

Yes I do !

Who is a Christian and a Dutch decendent
Who is a Tamil Hindu

I am a singhalees

But we all treat our selves as Sri Lankans and we don't care what religion the other is !

Answer 8

Jesus Christ

well I couldnt be bothered to read that but my 2 best friends are Indian and White

and they have best friends who are korean, japanese, jewish, black, sri lankan. this is London baby - we're a melting pot!

United colours of benneton!

Answer 9

Yes, a whole lot of them. I'm Asian and I've been living alongside people of different races/religions. And my best buddies are different from me, ethnically.

Answer 10

I'm American, and one of my best friends is Pakistani. We talk about everything and we hang out all the time.