2006-08-08 21:11:35 · 16 answers · asked by boredlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he was almost every thing i wanted in a man .... but i found out that he was still with his first GF ... he told me that he broke up with her ...... i cant hate him ..i cant forgive him
2006-08-08 21:29:48 · update #1
Use the time you once spent with him to improve your grammer!
2006-08-08 21:16:03 · answer #1 · answered by old dude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going through. and my heart goes out to you. Sometimes the heart is smarter then the brain. Girls tend to follow their heart more then what their brain is telling you. I was hurt so bad.
My fiance walked out on me when I was six months pregnant with his child. he left me for another women. He did not like the fact that I gained weight.
Well dahhhh I was pregnant. He told me when I lost the weight he would be a father to my daughter and the wedding would go on.
I trusted this man again. All was good we were making wedding plans. He went out one night and came home with hickies on his neck. So I said that was it no more.
so once again he promised to stop drinking and would marry me and we would be a family. I needed some space and time to think. He said he would wait for me. I called him up and said I was ready to give him one more chance. Well his neck was full of hickies, and his gf came to the door and told me to get lost. That he wanted no part of me.
I wish I would have learnt from the first time when he walked out when I was pregnant. He refused to come to the hospital.
You have to move on with you life. Stop thinking about him and what he did. He does not deserve your forgivness. From the sounds of it he hurt your really bad and he will only do it again.
You deserve better, You can find better, someone who will not hurt you. Forget what your heart is telling you. Think what your brain is telling you. A guy thinks with his penis and a gal thinks with her heart. If he truely cared in the first place he would not have hurt you.
Second chances do not work. Take it from me. Spare yourself another heart ache. You are a kind loving person who can do so much better. In time the wounds will heal and you will find someone better who will love you and not hurt you.
You cant forgive him, so tell him that and say leave me alone . If he refuses to then get a restraining order on him. You have to be strong. do not give into him. He will only hurt you again.
Good luck and you can do better then him..... I do not know what he did to you but it must have been pretty bad if you can not forgive him. Since you can not forgive him, that means it was not meant to be... move on enjoy life.
2006-08-09 04:26:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does'nt do any good not to forgive someone because if u don't u will keep thinking about it and it will eat at u, and if u don't get over this u might develope a tendency to take out ur feelings about this on ur next man, Forgive forget.
2006-08-09 06:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela Michele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean my wife of 25 years ran off with a truck driver 5 years ago and it still hurts.I have learned that you must forgive to start your healing.I know it is very hard.I pray for them.
I know what they did to my family is very wrong but I ask God to forgive them.I try to show them the love of Christ. Still hurts,always will I think.But I am moving on.I will talk with you if you like you are welcome to contact me.
2006-08-09 04:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u have two problems here1:u cant forgive 2:that means u cant forget. leave him for a while,do other things,who knows u might meet someone else.stop hurting yo self,life is short
2006-08-09 04:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea if someone hurts you really bad either cheating on you, beating you, or whatever, get out of the relationship fast, good luck
2006-08-09 04:15:47 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The statement is not complete, however, get yourself busy and slowly you will forget him.
2006-08-09 04:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by I-Rahi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what he did.
Cheat...Dump R away
Depends on the situation.
2006-08-09 04:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by satckaren72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u still love him? i can feel u still love him... but if he really hurt u badly, dump him... and try to forget... time heals all wounds
2006-08-09 04:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by sadgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then get rid of him, heal your wounds and find a new guy that won't hurt you
2006-08-09 04:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋