Would you wait for someone for 3 long years?

Question

My husband and I have only been married for 5 months. We also have a child together. But we've been together for almost 2 years. We have our ups and downs like other couples. But my main problem is that I don't fully trust him to go to Wales - England to study for 3 years. It seems a very long time and what if he fells lonely or a woman seduce him etc? He said he will only see my and our son once a year. But will keep in contact through emails and phone as much as we can. I really want to give him a chance for the sake of our son and family but I'm so afraid to get hurt, for what ever problem that may arise. His already made up his mind that he is going. People please, what shall I do? Has anybody experience this before? He does really love me. I broke up our marriage for this and he is asking me back to work it out before he goes. Please help. Thank you

Answer 1

I dont knnow how long ago you placed this ad and i dont know you or him but if your guy is anything like me he will be faithful. he will cherish the only times he gets to see or talk to you and your son. He must think that wat he is doing will make you, his, and your sons life better and easy to manage in the future. Dont feel abandoned because any guy out there will not just leave his new wife and long time girlfriend for no reason let alone his son. Give it a chance and take him back. i can almost garuntee you will not be sorry. i have been in a similar situation and trust me when i tell you him being away from you for so long not knowing that you are still there for him will absolutely destroy him..........

Answer 2

Is there really no way you guys can all relocated. Most schools have on-campus options for married couples, and couples with families, can you consider these options? I would definitely say stick it out... it seems hard in this era of modern times where people quit on each other when things get tough. Can you imagine a wife and child leaving the father because he went off to war for years and years? Or other circumstances that occur to people. An athlete who has to be traveling and practicing all over the county all year long?

Anyway, I know it's not what you'd like ideally, but if you two are really committed to one another, then you'll be able to find the strength to do it. Don't let modern society weaken your will and determination to honor your marriage vows. Also consider where his moral standing on this issue is as well. Are you guys going to be a team and support one another and be there for one another through the phone during this tough time in your relationship... or are you going to turn outwards from one another and seek other people and by doing that ruin your relationship?? It is up to the both of you, and you two need to have a serious talk about these serious issues and where you stand on them.