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Question

i chat with a man on the internet and im obssist about him the problem is he is far away and he is double my age i feel like im addicted to him, cant stop thinking about him and being with him it is realy pathatic for somebody in my age ( early 20s ) i know that my family will not like it since he is old for me and he might being using me but i really love him alot plzz help .

he say he really love me and stuff like that and he like prove it many times

Answer 1

Hi.
I would advice you to think a lot before taking any kind of decision. You are still young. Maybe it's not love but only infatuation. Have you ever meet him? Are you sure he is in love with you as well? You should clear all this out before taking any decision. What's the guarantee that he is not saying all the things that he tells you to other girls as well! It may also be that he is really in love with you. But my dear you just can't trust someone blindly. You should try to know him well, about his backgrounds and so on. It may be possible that he is alreday married. If he is really the right one for you, everything gonna be alright. Pray to God and ask him to help you find the right solution. Wish you all the best.

Answer 2

Sometimes the best boyfriend is the one you never actually dated.

You build them up and up in your mind until they're this absolutely perfect person that has absolutely no flaws.

Things change dramatically once you start living with someone.

If he's really too far away to make it plausible to meet, go out into the real world and find someone new.

Answer 3

well that can be hard but maybe this will help you out ok # 1 if you meant him on here then he could be just saying alot of sh*t to you. but if he is for real met him and see how he really is get to know everything that you can about.cuz he could be married with alot of kids. cuz alot of ppl.. do talk sh*t on here. so be careful on that. ok #2 your family ok if they love you then they are going to tell you that you should not do it and everything. that is your family's job they are going to do everything that they can to keep you safe. but if you really like him and love him then they may get mad cuz of the age but if they love you then they will come around it may take sometime. i hope this has helped in someway.

Answer 4

People can say and be anyone they want online...it is very easy to believe that the person you are chatting with is just perfect because you have very little to base that judgement on other than a bit of typed text that very well could be manipulative and very thought out in nature and the emotions that you attach to the cute little smileys that he sends you. You have never watched him around other people...you have never watched him from a distance as he lapses into his 'real' self...not the one he presents to you for controlled periods of time on his own terms.

I learned this from my ex who used to present himself online as me...yes...he would flash photos of me, talk to men as me, get people all stirred up...and it was sick to watch...and even more sickening when someone would recognize me and expect me to know them on a personal level...scary. But I became frighteningly aware of the fact that it was very easy for him to play this game and it taught me that you can only believe people so far online because you have no way of knowing any different...it isn't like they are going to suddenly be honest if they are lying...and it would be very sad to learn this the hard way.

Be very careful. I know this isn't what you were wanting to hear...but nonetheless...be careful.

Answer 5

he could be a preadator. don't talk to him any more!
i'm sorry to say it but he could be using you just to get him what he really wants, sex with a capitol S that's all he want's

think about it your in your mid 20's and what does a 40yr old man want? thats right s-e-x

he also could be a killer trying to lure you in.
first he will bring your love for him up to max
then he will ask u to come see him
next he will rape u
then he will kill u
finally he will dump you body somewhere and lie to the police that he has never seen u before.

i really hate to say that but its the truth.

Answer 6

Look love is love. And heartbreak is heartache.Be carefull about what people tell you all the time. And just keep it in mind that it is very easy for him to lie to you in a couple of keys and a screen. But thats the trick with love its nothing but faith.

Answer 7

just be careful bout who people say they are on the net but your old enuff to know that anyway. but age really doesnt matter its only a number and if it feels right go for it. im with someone 10 years my junior and they make me feel so young and happy. so i say go for it despitehow old he is you both obviously have a spark

Answer 8

I say just take it the way it is. Don't rush into things, because you don't want to get hurt. I just recently started likeing my friends uncle and found out he likes me to, but he has a fiancee. But still wants to get to know me a little more!

Answer 9

um i had something like that when i was 18... its kinda disturbing, make sure he has the right intentions, but i would try to ween yourself off that and hang out with some younger people in person. :) good luck

Answer 10

BE CAREFUL! GIVE YOUR FAMILY HIS INFO SO THEY CAN RUN A CHECK ON HIS BACKGROUND AND TELL HIM THEY'RE DOING IT!
IN FACT, IF YOU KNOW HIS NAME AND THE STATE HE LIVES IN, YOU CAN CHECK FOR HIM ON THE "SEX OFFENDER'S REGISTRY" FOR FREE AND IT'S IMMEDIATE INFO. JUST GO TO THE STATE WEB SITE AND PUT IT IN SEARCH. AT LEAST DO THIS BEFORE YOU KEEP TALKING TO HIM!