look ive been w/ my man for almost 3yrs with a 5month baby girl. I love my man w/ all my heart but he ****** up on me once and things havent been the same between us, and just a few weeks ago a meet this guy by my best friend who i've been talkin to and i'm startin to really like him. Does anyone think thats wrong to do, that im still ****** up on my man some how?
2006-08-08 20:35:47 · 14 answers · asked by mybaby_des 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ummm.... well, what your husband did to "f*ck up" would effect my opinion and answer. If you leave it at a hidden crush, no harm done, but if you cheat on your husband with him... oh boy. If your husband trusts you, and expects you to never cheat and you know it, then it would be wrong. But If you told him how your feeling... It may cause problems but pretending nothing's wrong if something's wrong isn't any better. At least get results. Do you think either of you would be up for trying a polygymous relationship? It's not for everyone, but pleasing all a person's sexual needs all the time is a difficult thing to do.
If none of it is a sexual issue, then I don't know what to tell you. I don't think it's wrong for you to feel that way, but you should think about ALL of the consequences of acting on it. Weight it. Make a list of all the pro's and all the cons of doing it. Consider your daughter, and consider regret. picture what your married life will be like in 5 years if things continue just the way they are. Do you like what you see? No one can make this decision for you, and it is a tough one, but please don't be spontaneous: think it through. I know what's best for baby usually comes first, as it should, but don't forget to worry about what's best for you. Good luck.
2006-08-08 20:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. The fact that you're just boyfriend and girlfriend is showing both of you that you love each other, but not married, where as when your married, your suppose to "feel" like you definately wont be attracted to anyone or some bullshit. The fact that you're boyfriend and girlfriend says i love you but we're still young and blah blah. Its not wrong to do at all, as long as your faithful to your current partner. Before you do anything with this new guy that your starting to like, tell your current boyfriend. Be like hey yo im just not feeling like we should be together or be like im not feeling the same i have when we first met and i think theres someone else and first see if you guys can work something out.
2006-08-09 03:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty. Keep your options open. Whatever he did(I'm guessing he cheated on you), he'll probably MORE than likely do it again.
If the 2 of you had been together for many, many years, I could overlook, one slip up but he has betrayed you early ON, in the relationship.
It sounds like he is not ready for a committed relationship and maybe never will be.
If I were you, I would start looking at other men for better and greener pastures.
DEFINITELY, express interest in this new man in your life.
You have NOTHING to feel guilty about. Your man set the stage, for this to happen, HIMSELF. He should have thought about that before stabbing you in the heart.
2006-08-09 03:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice. You said your man, not your husband so there is not that permanent vow. It's not really a question of morals. The only wrong thing is if you deceive either of these men. You say you love your man, so it wouldn't be right for you to do him like he did you. The other guy sounds nice and it wouldn't be right to lead him on if you won't leave the one you're with. Decide which one you want to be with and stick with your choice.
2006-08-09 03:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kuji 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should energise your man and ask him to satisfy your need but to ask any other man to do the same it is wrong,
make your man enrgised by feeding him a pills and some thing else which can make him so powerfull to make You satisfied.
2006-08-09 03:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by innocent_Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have his baby and he hasn't committed to you at all. Get married and give your baby a REAL FAMILY or move on and find you and your baby a good life partner. Preferrably marry.
Best of luck to you. Don't put up with cheaters!
2006-08-09 03:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because things are not going right does not mean that you need to step to that level if you don't want to be with him then tell him and then move on,but doing it behind his back will only add flames to a fire that is already burning
2006-08-09 03:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by skulllivin2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you feel a little sad about the situation or you wouldn't be asking, you already know you are messing up.
2006-08-09 03:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by X's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a daughter. Would you even try to forgive him for her? I mean he only ****** you up once right?
2006-08-09 03:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay loyal to your man or become a lesbian. No problems there...most lebian couples are open to multiple sex partners. Enjoy.
2006-08-09 03:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋