ive been out a lot with my friends latly and my parents are getting mad and saying i dont spend enough time at home but its the summer and i wanna spend time wit my friends and my boyfriend, but it seems they're always mad at me. wut should i do? and why dont they understand that i hav my own life also??
2006-08-08 20:33:37 · 8 answers · asked by soccer4life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe because society today is so f*cked up they only worry about you, and look out for your best interest, you should really take what they say into concideration, you will learn when you get older why they do and say things that they do.
2006-08-08 20:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you hear this all the time from adults, but it's the honest truth..... They are looking out for you and trying to do their best. I am a step dad to two wonderful daughters who are now 19 and 21.
I spent much of the last 6 or 7 years always worrying about them and always trying to be there for them and afraid that I wasn't doing enough.
In retrospect I guess I crowded them to much and wanted them to spend too much time with me or the family. Maybe I was just afraid that some day would come and they would grow up and not need me anymore or even worse forget all about me. On the other hand, maybe I just wanted them to always know that I want them to be around and that I didn't want to be the type of parent who doesn't ever seem to give a crap where their kids are or what there doing. It's hard to find middle ground sometimes and I think that once you have children, you will understand when the time comes.
My advice to you is to learn to balance your life with your friends and family - spend time with both. Talk to them about how you feel and let them know that you still want them to be involved in your life, but need some time of your own as well. Ask yourself as well as them how you can all come to a compromise and understanding.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-09 01:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by jarhed 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Us parents have been through what you are going through. You are not a grown up yet. They are worried about you. I no I get very worried when my oldest comes home with his black nail polish and his different color hair and his lip stick on. Sometimes I get worried that some one will hurt him for the way he dresses. The world is not a nice place for young people! I do not even no what I would do if I had a girl, I bet I would not let her out the door!
They are just worried about you, and have not yet excepted that you are growing up. Give them time.... In another 10 to 20 years you will understand.
2006-08-08 20:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still young yet am old enough to know that your parents love you or would not care if you ever came back home! they know that you can not be close to someone you don't spend time with a exp. is your friends you feel that it's important to spend time with them to stay close not to mention just to have fun being with them. now take your parents they know ,contrary to your belief , that if you don't spend time with them you will grow apart , so they want to spend time with you and in the long run it wont hurt you to stay home once in a while to be with them. but that being said you could tell your parents to give you a reason to stay home exp. some planned family time doing things you all like together not just at home but apart. hope it helps
2006-08-08 20:47:17 · answer #4 · answered by hi people 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth is parents do understand teenagers. We know exactly what goes on out there at night, and we're scared to death that our kids won't make it through their teen years. Sure, some parents are tougher than others, but, hopefully, it's because they love you. Parents are grown up teenagers.
2006-08-08 20:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
please spend time with them so that they feel happy.Atleast try to take dinner with them becoz it is the only time where all the family members have time to share their feelings.As every memeber will have their work during the day time. And try to go out only on weekends.
2006-08-08 20:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by NANI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
iTS HARD FOR PARENTS TO LET GO OF THEiR Children . . . . YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND YOUR STiLL THEiR BABY AND THEY WOULD LiKE TO SPEND AS MUCH TiME WiTH YOU AS THEY CAN B4 YOU GROW UP WAY TO MUCH AND CAN`T REALLY CONTROLL WHAT YOU DO . . . . THEM GETTiN MAD iS jUSS THEiR WAY OF TRYiN TA KEEP U HOME . . . . iTS OK . . . . SO jUST LAY LOW FOR A LiL TRY AND BE ON THERE GOOD SiDE . . . .
2006-08-08 20:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a phase they're going through.
2006-08-08 20:37:50 · answer #8 · answered by Scotty Wrotem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋