i think my sons mother is brainwashing him against me for some reason and dont want me to see him how can i stop this i think the reason behind this is that he is a rude boy around her and when he is with me he is different and that she cannot control him at all always in trouble(he is ten by the way) at school i think she wants away with him and dont want me to look after him help me people please
2006-08-08 20:25:00 · 5 answers · asked by rastaman D. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i really want to answer u . because i have seen the same situation my friend went through. first r u together or separated ? r u divorced ? u say your son is ten years old. at this age the children are able to understant the weakness of their parents & they know how to take advantage of it.he knows both of u love him. have a proper talk with him. with whom he wants to stay . if your wife does not approve of it leave your son with her. make your son understand that u love him & it is for his good u r leaving him with his mother. don't interfere with her upbringing. give her three months time limit. tell her to take all the responsibilities including his school studies & behaviour.she has to prove herself within three months ( u can give her more time if possible ) this way your son cannot take advantage of both of u. if he shows improvement in his studies & behaviour well she is a good mother & u should be happy for your son. & be happy with his weekend visits to u. it is not the quantity but the quality time whiich counts. in case if she is not able to look after him properly during the probation time u can take full care of him.if both of u start playing tug of war with a 10 year old boy u will be spoiling his future. remember. my friend did this. & it worked wonders. my friend was not able to cope up. so, he opted for the other option. now the boy is with his mother , weekends he visits his father.the boy has shown lot of improvement in his studies & behaviour. hope my answer will be helpful to u.
2006-08-08 20:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 3⤋
Well if there is no possible legal action you can take then I dont see much you can do, Just show your son your not the bad person in this, and whatever you do, do NOT turn it around and do it back to her, Maybe he feels pressured, or she put him up to something, I dunno what kind of person she is, nor yourself so really, this is something you will have to learn to cooperate with or hope for the best, and like I said just show your son you trying to be the best and do the best you can for him.
Good Luck, hun!
2006-08-08 20:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not brainwashing your son. Why don't you ask him who he would rather live with. Please don't punish him by forcing him to live with someone he does not want to live with. Maybe you think she is brainwashing your son, because you can't face the fact that your son may not want to live with you.
2006-08-08 20:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by girlie [♥] 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He must be confused by her attitude toward you. Please don't confuse him more by doing the same toward her. Show him you love him and do everything you can to help him be strong and happy. Love is sweet and poison is bitter. He will instinctively know the difference.
2006-08-08 20:35:35 · answer #4 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to court & try her for custody thats all i can think of..........
2006-08-08 20:32:54 · answer #5 · answered by TDR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋