Is there such a thing as too young for a relationship?

Question

I'm in my early teens and my gf is the same age as me. We've been together for around 9 months already. We talked about our first kiss pretty long ago and she's pretty patient about it, preferring to wait till we're 16.

I'm pretty impatient however, and questioned her. But in the end, I respected her and decided to wait, and of course, never to talk about it again, so as to not spoil the "fun".

We've been through quite a lot of unstable times and managed to work it out and basically know each other more with each arguement. We are well aware of the responsibilities a relationship requires.

Answer 1

Absolutely. Anything more than a chaste peck on the cheek is a concrete step in the direction of a one-flesh relationship. Indeed, if that turns you on and has you wanting more, even that is too much - unless you are 100% sure you want to travel that road together.

See, because once you have sex, in a very real way, there's no turning back, as you will find out the hard way if some third party appears or there's a breakup, and then it will be too late.

In other words, sex in principle creates a permanent relationship. Now, permanent relationships do not happen by chance. They happen when people take 100% responsibility for all their decisions and actions (which involves, among other things, being independent from Mom and Dad), decide to put each other first (above everyone except God) and make a permanent commitment to each other - in public so they are accountable.

And what happens if you do that? Well, you spare yourself a lot of temptation and trouble, because you have instead chosen to focus your mind on doing what you have to to make a good and lasting relationship. You show respect to yourself, your partner, and most importantly to the God Who will join you together when you make that commitment to each other - and wants every one-flesh relationship to have that character.

I don't know about you, but that sounds like a pretty good deal to me. At the age of 42 and still single, I haven't done anything non-platonic with anyone in over 22 years (not even kissing - anything more than a chaste peck on the cheek, or two or three as is traditional where I live). I've always had a conviction that I need to save at least something for my husband, and over time I've grown more circumspect in my behavior, but the fact remains that way back when, I was, shall we say, a little crazier in my personal life than I am now, so I do have some idea what I'm missing. And I do still think that next kiss is worth waiting for to savor with my husband.

Answer 2

hmmmm, sorry I don't think you will like my answer but . . . you can definately be too young for some types of relationships, the type you describe is one of those. I do realize that in some cultures, people marry at even younger ages than you are right now, but that is those cultures and being raised within that whole environment. We Westerners are not in that environment, we do not raise our children to prepare for that kind of responsibility so early in life. For instance; I married when I was 28 and that was too young (we divorced a year later). I am married again, but this time, I was ready for it and the responsibilities!
You are still young, live and learn but stay out of relationships, you are too young!

Answer 3

I'm 21 and I think that when I was 16 I was too young to date. Now when I was 16 I didn't feel that way, but now that I'm older I realize that I was. Being in relationships are so complicated and there are so many other things that you should occupy your time with.

Answer 4

no its not u can date how ever young u think u should date