ok i'm 13 going into the junoir high people have said that its different from middle school like as far as guys go like they expect more for a girl like to cover all bases is this true? if so how do u find a guy who wont pressure you into something even if you say no they could do it to you anyways because there alot bigger and stronger.what were your 8th grade dqys like?
2006-08-08 19:00:47 · 10 answers · asked by C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-08-08 19:12:26 · update #1
You never have to give in to that kind of pressure. Yes a lot of boys will be physically stronger than you. That's why you don't get in a car with them or go any where with them unless it is a public place. Certainly, never go where you are the only girl and there are 2 or more boys. That 17 y/o girl that was in Aruba, got in a car with 2 boys, had been drinking alcohol, and has never been heard of again; was stupid, simply stupid!
As long as people are around, you can scream, yell, kick him in the balls, scratch his face, and run. I don't want to paint a totally negative picture but you need to respect yourself, be careful, and use the power that God gave you.
Don't go on dates with boys you don't know and if a boy tries to pressure you into going on a date with him while you are talking at school, then he will try to pressure you into doing things away from school also.
If I was you I would also use you parents for advice and help. I know it may not be cool or with it, but if I were your father, I would want you to have fun dating experiences at school, but I would want to to everything I could to help you keep safe and not pressured at school to do what you didn't want to do.
2006-08-08 19:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, sweetie, first of all, you shouldn't believe everything that you hear. In the dating world, you'll find a lot of guys that'll try to pressure you for sex, but not all of them are like that.There are nice, respectable guys out there who will wait until you're ready!But can I ask why you're in such a hurry to start dating in the first place? You are only 13 years old, that's FAR too young to get involved with guys at all, let alone start sleeping with them!You should enjoy being young: have fun, hang out with your friends, and go to school and get an education. There's plenty of time for boyfriends later, why be in a rush to start dating now? As for your other questions, there are a lot of perverts out there also, so u need to be very careful! Always, always, always use your instincts and try to stay out of potentially dangerous situations that can get you in trouble.Don't hang out with someone you don't know very well by yourself.And if U R someplace that just doesn't feel right, then LEAVE!! I remember my eighth grade year as being kinda lonely--I didn't really have many friends, and I remember the work was pretty hard and the teachers were real pains!But I got through it, and so can you. So good luck and please take care of yourself!
2006-08-08 19:21:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be true to yourself. You choose what you want to do and when you want to do it. If someone forces you that is rape and they can go to jail just be strong and comfortable with yourself. If you wait you will find a guy that truly wants to be with you for you. When i was in grade 8 i had heard all the stories like you but i'am a guy so the stories were different but none the less alot of what you hear never happens. You have a choice to make and that is that.
2006-08-08 19:05:57 · answer #3 · answered by buckweedo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I almost got raped quite a few times, but I fought like hell and screamed loud. But I do have to say, I would not take chances, and put myself in the wrong places for this to happen. Stay with others, if u don't know the guy well. That is where I made my mistake. I still have niightmares. And I wasn't a teeny-bopper, I was in high school. And I made the wrong decision by not telling someone. (adult) I wish I had, now.
2006-08-08 19:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by kudee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, I thought jr high was middle school. I was in 8th grade 8 years ago and most kids weren't having sex or even thinking about it. Your best bet if you don't want to have sex is to find a guy that feels the same way or don't date at all.
2006-08-08 19:06:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I went to school ten years ago in year 8 there wasn't really much talk about sex or any guy saying they had it until I hit the seniors years year 11 and 12
2006-08-08 19:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm well coming from a girl who is.... lets say... in the popular group.... oh i'm going in to 9th.... It wasn't much different from 7th.... but I live in San Francisco soooo it could be different from your school
2006-08-08 19:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by Chaysee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay my eighth grade days were okay but when a guy pressures you then he's not the one you should chill wit cuz dats a jerk. a real guy cares about your feelings and cares about you alot. rememeber only do sumthing whenever you're ready.
hope this helps
2006-08-08 19:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by sexygurl91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u do meet a guy like that and he pressures u into something u dont want to do...try to turn him off big time...pick ur nose in front of him or somethin lol!
2006-08-08 19:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by Meghan P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to flow with the time , no use to resist .
2006-08-08 19:08:12 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋